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Hello <3

Hi everybody!

So I've been kind of exploring the Knot community, and I figured it's about time I actually introduced myself and started sharing in the knot boards and getting to know other Knotties and Knotties-to-be!  Figured I'd start with the story of how me and my husband-to-be met lol...here goes...

My bf and I have been dating for 6 months (Saturday was our 6-month dating anniversary XD), and even though we're still in the infant stages of our relationship, we've already started looking at our future together.

We met back in June 4th at our workplace - it was my first night on the job, and while I was working my BF came in to visit my co-workers and came over to talk to me while I was doing some cleaning.  Right away we were chatting and we really connected.  He was wearing a cast because he had broken his wrist not long before that night, and before he left I signed his cast, "from your new best friend" (amazing how things worked out!).  We only ever worked together for one shift, because of his broken wing- by the time his arm was out of the cast, I was headed on a two-week vacation to my hometown in Newfoundland, and when I returned he had moved on to another job!!  Still, for months afterward we saw each other fairly often, because he used to bring his year-old son to see me and my coworkers at work. After a night out with our co-workers, the next day he e-mailed me with his phone number, and on a whim I texted him.  Again we started hitting it off (really hitting it off- like, texting each other nonstop!!)

We started having little dates here and there, and he'd drop by to see me at the university while I was on my lunch break before he started his shift at work nearby.  From there things just kind of snowballed and our dates became more frequent (became a sort of Friday night tradition because it was one of the few nights the pair of us weren't working at the time).  Since then, we are becoming more and more committed to each other- we see each other for a few hours almost nightly before he heads to work (we live 30 minutes apart right now, which has been kind of hard- but we're looking to start living together really soon), and in the meantime we spend our weekends living together at his place until we can get our very own nest together.

The more time we've been together, the more we've realized that we want to become a family, and started thinking about a wedding and married life.  I guess we could say I'm more of the planner in this respect, but he's been very happy and open about the whole thing, and we are both very excited to see what lies ahead!!  Can't wait to share more of our story and planning with all of you lovely ladies!!
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Re: Hello <3

  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    edited April 2012
    I skimmed.  Too long.

    Boys have wings?

    And don't plan until you're engaged.

    Otherwise, welcome.
    I french with my man
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  • rdr i love that.

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  • I guess I wouldn't call it serious planning per se, just kind of getting little ideas here and there (BF and I both know that butterflies have a very special significance to me, so we know that whenever we tie the knot, butterflies will be a big part of our theme lol).  Little things like that XD

    He broke his wrist back in the summer, and because he's been such an angel in helping me cope with my chronic illness since we've been together, his family and my family and I call his formerly broken wrist his "broken wing" lol

    Just to clarify haha <3
    And sorry for the long post- didn't realize it was so big til after the fact haha XD
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  • "Butterfly Princess?"

    REALLY?

    Are you 12?

    I mean, I can read. I can see that you claim to be 23.

    Call me a meanie head, but I just have a hard time taking you seriously with a SN like that.

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hello-3-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d36534ec-6975-491d-a8bf-2a3f3cd64c0aPost:91635740-e246-4fa3-849b-3b3af7ca3950">Re: Hello <3</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>"Butterfly Princess?" REALLY?</strong> Are you 12? I mean, I can read. I can see that you claim to be 23. Call me a meanie head, but I just have a hard time taking you seriously with a SN like that.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_keeping-our-fingers-crossed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:3ff68ac5-b385-4da8-99e7-65d320a83f2bPost:afd64516-e237-4b48-b018-e778871dae86">Keeping our fingers crossed</a>:
    [QUOTE]My boyfriend has an appointment at the bank in a half an hour, and we're both getting anxious butterflies waiting for it. <strong>He's hoping to get a line of credit from the bank so that he can tackle his car payment balance and put away some extra $$$ for us to plan our wedding and our future apartment </strong>(right now we live 30 minutes apart and only live together on the weekends because of my school situation and his work situation- but we're hoping to change that really soon!) We're hoping for a good outcome :) *fingers crossed*
    Posted by ButterflyPrincess1014[/QUOTE]

    <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/13/5/5da74fc3-cea0-4fe7-a5ca-679417037951.large.gif" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/13/5/5da74fc3-cea0-4fe7-a5ca-679417037951.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>

    Are either of you aware of what a "line of credit" is?

    <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Line_of_credit" target="_blank" rel="nofollow"><u><font color="#0000FF">linky link</font></u></a>
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  • There is no way you're 23.


  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hello-3-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:d36534ec-6975-491d-a8bf-2a3f3cd64c0aPost:7e2281b2-8ebc-420c-a391-fcbb7cd0bab0">Re: Hello <3</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Keeping our fingers crossed : Are either of you aware of what a "line of credit" is? linky link
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    I officially love you.
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     "His farts smell like Satan's asshole mixed with a skunk's vagina. But it's okay, because I love him." -CSousa









  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hello-3-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d36534ec-6975-491d-a8bf-2a3f3cd64c0aPost:91635740-e246-4fa3-849b-3b3af7ca3950">Re: Hello <3</a>:
    [QUOTE]"Butterfly Princess?" REALLY? Are you 12? I mean, I can read. I can see that you claim to be 23. Call me a meanie head, but I just have a hard time taking you seriously with a SN like that.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]


    Hi Desertsun

    I wanted a different screen name, but I guess it was a popular choice on the board, because it was never available no matter how many different ways I tried to rearrange it.  I settled for "Butterfly Princess" because butterflies have a very special meaning to me, and then I just paired it with "Princess", the nickname that my bf gave me when we first started dating (which I'm sure I might get some flack for, but I don't mind).

    I don't think you're a "meanie head" at all, honestly- it's certainly a valid opinion
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello <3 : Hi Desertsun I wanted a different screen name, but I guess it was a popular choice on the board, because it was never available no matter how many different ways I tried to rearrange it.  I settled for "Butterfly Princess" because butterflies have a very special meaning to me, and then I just paired it with "Princess", the nickname that my bf gave me when we first started dating (which I'm sure I might get some flack for, but I don't mind). I don't think you're a "meanie head" at all, honestly- it's certainly a valid opinion
    Posted by ButterflyPrincess1014[/QUOTE]

    This kind of response definitely makes me think more highly of you. Nicely done.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hello-3-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d36534ec-6975-491d-a8bf-2a3f3cd64c0aPost:f67c2d54-24e6-4e79-aa11-b6390b14e8ce">Re: Hello <3</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well, good that you're not seriously planning. It sounded like from your post over on the Chit Chat board that you were pretty gung-ho about wedding planning. Also, you'll probably notice here that <strong>you'll get better responses if you don't end every sentence with "lol"</strong> or emoticons. It's just easier for folks to read and you'll probably get more responses. Other than that, jump in on conversations and get to know the board!
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    This. Please, please, this. LOL has become the written "um," and I find it terribly annoying. People write it in places where they would never actually laugh out loud.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello <3 : OP - Can you tell us more about this line of credit your BF is taking out?
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    I want some of whatever it is.  Magical money that will pay off a loan AND increase my savings for my future wedding.  Score!   It would definitely make pulling the trigger on my new car a lot easier if I knew that I could just get a line of credit to pay it off. 

    Forget that I have children to support.  I NEEDS ME ANOTHER WEDDING!!!!!
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  • I also just wanted to say slow your roll on the whole marriage thing.  H and I started discussing possibly getting married at around 6 months too, and I moved in with him at 7 months, but we got married 2 weeks shy of our 3 YEAR anniversary.  So while it's fine to know that marriage is the path your relationship is on...planning anything at this point is a little overkill as it could still be several years before it actually gets to that point.

    And I'm also curious about this line of credit.  By the way you are describing how you'll use it, it doesn't sound like you understand exactly how that works.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello <3 : I want some of whatever it is.  Magical money that will pay off a loan AND increase my savings for my future wedding.  Score!   It would definitely make pulling the trigger on my new car a lot easier if I knew that I could just get a line of credit to pay it off.  Forget that I have children to support.  I NEEDS ME ANOTHER WEDDING!!!!!
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    DUH!  You need only feed them oxygen and clothe them in unicorn shiit until your magical PPD.  And that's, like, free...right?
  • eirwyneirwyn member
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    edited April 2012
    Soooo, he's taking out a loan to pay off a loan?

    Ummm... no.

    1) The interest rate on that line of credit will probably be higher than the interest rate on his car loan. Just pay off the car loan on its own.

    2) Save up for a security deposit on a new place. If you can't afford to save for a security deposit, you can't afford a loan. Loans charge interest. A savings account GIVES you interest. Saving /> loan when it comes to moving expenses.

    3) Don't take out a loan for a wedding you aren't even planning yet. FFS...

    4) Kid first, wedding expenses later. Kid is always priority one. You can have all the magical daydreamy visions about your wedding that you want, but the reality is there is a child in the equation. Do not jeopardize this child's future by getting yourself in debt over a party.
  • Damn, I really have to pull this out twice in one day?



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    [QUOTE]I also just wanted to say slow your roll on the whole marriage thing.  H and I started discussing possibly getting married at around 6 months too, and I moved in with him at 7 months, but we got married 2 weeks shy of our 3 YEAR anniversary.  So while it's fine to know that marriage is the path your relationship is on...planning anything at this point is a little overkill as it could still be several years before it actually gets to that point. And I'm also curious about this line of credit.  By the way you are describing how you'll use it, it doesn't sound like you understand exactly how that works.
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
    Ditto. Me and my BF discussed the possibility of marriage early in our relationship (probably around the 6-7 month mark), we've been dating for 2.5 years and we're still not engaged. <div>
    </div><div>From the sounds of things though, it seems like you should maybe think about slowing things down. There is a child involved. Plus getting a line of credit to pay for a wedding? No offence but that doesn't seem like a good idea. Plan a wedding you can afford or put off the wedding until you can save enough money to pay for the wedding yourself.<div>
    </div><div>I'm not saying that I'm the best person when it comes to money stuff, I've done some stupid things with my money, but taking out a line of credit to pay off a car loan doesn't seem like a smart idea. Generally a car loan's interest is lower than a line of credit would be. It really sounds like the two of you need to talk about your financial goals both short and long term. You really need to make sure you have a sound financial plan in place, esepcially because of your BF's child. It sounds like you really need to see a financial planner or something to advise you what to do. Living 30 minutes apart is not far at all. I lived 2.5 hours away from an old BF once and we made things work. I've also been in school while working a full time job and have had little time to spend with my partner. Getting a loan so you can get an apartment so you can see each other more often just doesn't make sense.</div></div><div>
    </div><div>Have you even considered too what sort of role you will be taking in your BF's child's life and what sort of impact it could have on this child if the two of you split?</div>
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  • So a whole bunch of you have been asking about the line of credit situation, so I figured I'd share the news that my BF passed along to me when he dropped by today (he probably explained it better than I'm about to, so please bear with me).  As it turns out, it is WAY better for him to pay off the car loan without the use of a line of credit, and his financial advisor told him that based on his credit score and his salary, he should be able to increase the amount of monthly payments he makes on the car so that he will still be paying off the car itself on top of chipping away at the interest on the car.  So, if he follows through with her advice, he'll have only a year and a half to two years to pay off the car instead of going 3-4 years! (Plus she advised him to switch his debit account to one that score him higher interest savings, which was a bonus!)
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    [QUOTE]As it turns out, it is WAY better for him to pay off the car loan without the use of a line of credit, and his financial advisor told him that based on his credit score and his salary, he should be able to increase the amount of monthly payments he makes on the car so that he will still be paying off the car itself on top of chipping away at the interest on the car.
    Posted by ButterflyPrincess1014[/QUOTE]
    I've also heard that the sky is blue and water is wet.

  • Sorry if I was hard on you. When I was 23, I screwed up my credit like a champ doing very similar things, so I kind of got all "zomg please don't do this trust me!!!"

    I'm glad he's going to work hard to pay off his car loan instead of taking out another loan. It really is the best decision.
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    [QUOTE]I also just wanted to say slow your roll on the whole marriage thing.  H and I started discussing possibly getting married at around 6 months too, and I moved in with him at 7 months, but we got married 2 weeks shy of our 3 YEAR anniversary.  So while it's fine to know that marriage is the path your relationship is on...planning anything at this point is a little overkill as it could still be several years before it actually gets to that point. And I'm also curious about this line of credit.  By the way you are describing how you'll use it, it doesn't sound like you understand exactly how that works.
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

    <div>All of this... </div>
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    [QUOTE]<strong>There is no way you're 23.</strong>
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
    This. I was thinking you were in my age range or younger..
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello <3 : I've also heard that the sky is blue and water is wet.
    Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

    <div>*snort*</div>
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