To pick up or not to pick up? What do you think?

SenoritaCupcake

Good Morning : )

I have a quandary that I was hoping you guys might be able to help out with. In my intro I explained that my BF was about to finish paying off the e-ring, well last night he asked me if I wanted to come and pick it up with him.  We picked out the stone and the setting together a little less than a year ago, but I never saw the finished product, and he wants to make sure that it’s what I want / fits right, etc.  I know the proposal isn’t coming for at least 6 months, so it would be nice to see the ring and have something to “keep me going” while I wait. However, there’s also a part of me that doesn’t want to see the finished ring until that moment (when I actually get to keep it :P )

What do you think??

AbigailMS

The old fashioned old lady inside me is telling me to say DON'T GO! Plus I feel like seeing it might just make it worse. If you never see it you don't know what you're missing? IDK I'm new! *shrug* lol

PaigeMcC

Tough choice!!  I, personally, wouldn't go.  I'd want it to be at least a little bit of a surprise.  But this is really something you'll have to decide.  Do you really want to see it? Or do you want to wait and be pleasantly surprised?  

PaigeMcC

Andplusalso: it would drive me nuts if I saw it and couldn't keep it.  I'd want it NOW.  I'm demanding like that;)

LizzyTish88

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[QUOTE]Andplusalso: it would drive me nuts if I saw it and couldn't keep it.  I'd want it NOW.  I'm demanding like that;)
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

Yeah I am the same way. I think seeing it and knowing that I wasn't getting it for a while would kill me and make my inpatient. BUT that it just me. I think that this is your choice and your choice only, with the exception of hearing out your BF. Good Luck and let us know what you do. 

Ember01

Trust me... Don't go see it. Once you see it you'll want to try it on and keep it. Stay away from the ring until he proposes. I have told myself that it is bad luck to try the ring on before it is given to me.

Hazel_B

I think I'd want to keep it a surprise. it'd bother me to know it fits and what it looks like and not being able to have it.

heyimbren

Would you rather go see it now and make sure it fits okay and everything, or wait until the proposal and then find out if it fits or not? I also would want to have it right away if I saw the ring, but at the same time I know it could also drive some girls crazy to have the proposal, receive the ring, and then send it away to get it resized.

MLekathLEEN

It would drive me nuts it I went to see it but couldnt have it. I went with FI to buy my promise ring (shut up! lol) and the 6 weeks we had to wait to get it sized was torture! To make it worse, it was done about a week sooner but FI was on vacation and wouldn't let me go pick it up.

If trying it on is an issue, could BF blindfold you so you're still surprised and have no clue what it looks like? Just a thought.

HeartOverMind

Personally, I wouldn't go but I understand why someone would want to go. I'm not big on surprises but this is one thing I would want to keep as mysterious as possible.

EDIT: BTW, cute sig pic, Bren!

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Personally, I wouldn't go but I understand why someone would want to go. I'm not big on surprises but this is one thing I would want to keep as mysterious as possible. EDIT: BTW, cute sig pic, Bren!
Posted by HeartOverMind[/QUOTE]

Aw, thanks Heart! :)

motoLyn

I say don't go, the fitting can happen after the proposal, but this is coming from a girl that went to pick up her ring with the S/O.  So my opinion is a bit bias.  I think I would have rather been surprised.  As long as the ring size is correct then the other fitting issues can be dealt with afterwards.  But its your choice and how comfy you are knowing the ring is near by. 

Blue & White

If my ring doesn't fit the day of the proposal, my engagement's still valid.  That being said, I'm crazy old fashioned and if I see the ring before the proposal, my eyes will probably fall out.  Unless he steals the one I already HAVE (my great gma left it to me, I wear it all the time on the right hand) - then obviously, I've seen it already.

Elle1036

I'm gonna be different and say I would go.  In a second.  Without thinking about it.

I'm a total control freak and would want to make sure it was absolutely perfect.  I think it would suck to wait until the engagement to be able to see it and then find out that it needs to be resized or adjusted in some way and have to give it right back.  If you go check on it now, at least you'll know that once you're engaged, it won't be coming off your hand.

SenoritaCupcake

Thanks for the advice everyone. The consensus certainly seems to be that I shouldn’t see the ring before I get to keep it in order to ward off any major BSC danger.

It’s really nice to hear from someone who’s been there, thanks Lyn.

I think Kathleen had a great idea that I could just get the best of both worlds by trying it on at the shop but keeping my eyes closed. That way we know it fits but I won’t see it beforehand.

Thanks for keeping me on the straight and narrow guys.

*sigh* It’s going to be a long 6 months.

SenoritaCupcake

lol I'm always soliciting opinions. I generally opertate on the premise that everyone around me is probably smarter/saner than me.

misskrysbaby

I wouldn't go personally but I can see why you would. It would drive me nuts seeing that big rock in person and not being able to put it on your finger. But if you think you can handle that, go for it!