Hi all,
I've been browsing but hesitiated with registering given I fall into this lovely category of Not Engaged Yet (who know they had this topic but love it!). A little background on me and my bf. We have ben dating for a little over 4 years now. We are both 27 though I just turned 27--he turns 28 in a couple of months. From the very beginning, I knew he was a man I could marry some day (it terrified me at 23 though). We both live in the city of Chicago so the culture definitely is not one of which a lot of people marry young. We always both said we wanted to be confident and comfortable in who we were as individuals before joining our lives together as one. He has always said he wants to get married around 30 and i always said 28---so we are certainly approaching that point and I am sooo excited for when it will happen. I do not want to know anything leading up to the moment--I want to be completely surprised and he knows this. We have talked enough about the future where I feel confident enough that this is where we are headed. I actually discussed all of this with my sister recently and she asked what kind of ring I wanted and I don't even know--I have never even thought that. I don't know if that is weird but on to my recent problem...
We have had quite a couple weddings already this summer with more to come. They have both been friends of his. We had a blast at the two so far but whatever we do--we can not avoid the--"when are you two getting married?" The 1st wedding we were basically the only non married couple there so I suppose we were the obvious targets. I actually took it as a compliment at this wedding as it came from his guy friends and this is the ultimate approval. Funny story, we took a walk together along the water (the wedding was at a bueatiful home on a bay), and when we came back, everyone thought he had proposed--that would be awful--at someone elses wedding! After that experience, I found this board to see if anyone else had experiences/advice for the engagement pressures and questions while attending weddigns together. The 2nd wedding I managed to "catch" the bouquet--it was about to hit me in the face! So of course the groom directed the garter at my bf--which he let fall between the legs of him and another guy (thanks babe!) but eventually picked up--so of course then we became the targets at this wedding as well-I tried the when he asks me deflection but this just prompted follow ups---have you talked about it? When do you think he will ask?
Our next wedding isn't for another month but I think I we may have to run some bets on guessing how many times we are asked. I know I cannot be the only Not Yet Engaged who deals with these questions. Any good stories--how do you usaully deal with it? I know it has to be pretty common. These last two weddings, I feel as though I've spent 75% talking about our future with the bf with all the different people that want to talk about it....and usually I just want to go dance...
