How romantic is your SO?

jaycee7389

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?

What romantic thing does he hate?

polkadot111

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
When we first started dating seriously a 10/10. But now, maybe a 5 or 6/10

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
Other than when he proposed.... Hmm... Once he bought a giant chocolate bar, wrote a poem for me, and carved it in the chocolate bar. This is when we had first started dating.  I kept that chocolate bar for as long as I could, dug it up a few weeks ago, and YUCK!

ETA: Other than the traditional type of romance, I really love how he'll always say, "You're beautiful" or how he cleans my car all the time for me. He calls me his "desert flower" because I am the most beautiful thing around, and rare. I like the little things he does. I suppose his 'romance' changed from traditional thoughts of romance, to more everyday type romance.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Yeah. Very good. Often he buys me jewelry and sometimes flowers, although he thinks flowers are dumb.

What romantic thing does he hate?
Buying flowers. He says they die too easily.

TheMutleys

I think that romance is different for every couple.  I'm not big into the traditional, red roses, jewelry, champagne romance.  Never have been.  I also don't really care about romance on specific days.  It is the daily, random stuff that makes my heart go pitter patter. 

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is? I would say that he is a 10 out of 10 for my kind of romance.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?  Not quite sure.  I find the day to day stuff very romantic.  He always reaches for my hand while we're walking together.  He makes sure the dishes (my least favorite chore) are taken care of.  He regularly gets up with our son so that I can get more sleep these days.   

When we lived in San Diego, he used to go lobstering a lot.  I joked that he was never allowed to come home empty handed.  Well, one time they struck out, so he drove around to find a store that was open at almost midnight on a Saturday to come home with flowers.   

Today, I found it pretty darn romantic that he tore out a storage cabinet in our kitchen/dining area and took out some beams in our dining area.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?  Yes.  However, this year I am taking care of EVERYTHING for our anniversary.  He doesn't even know where we are going.  All he knows is that we'll be gone from Friday to Monday.  I'm very excited about all of the surprises I have planned for him.

What romantic thing does he hate?  Not really anything.

jaycee7389

I'm the same way Mutley. FI knows I would rather have a card with something written in it than flowers or a gift.

Wow polka that chocolate thing was adorable! I literally LOL'd at you keeping it and it turning bad.

[Deleted User]

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
  He is definitely the most romantic man I know!

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
   Besides his amazing proposal I would have to say that the most romantic thing he has done was our first valentine's day together.  He gave me twelve roses throughout the day, each a different color.  He started out with the friendship colors and gradually worked his way up to the deepest red color for true love.  I woke up to a rose, had roses showing up throughout the school day, and the last one was brought to me during dessert after our sushi dinner. 

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
  He is awesome about them, I always get a hand made card from him.  He loves drawing us and our pets on them along with a sappy love note!

What romantic thing does he hate?
  He doesn't hate it, but he isn't fond of cheesy "romantic" music.  It works out well though because I don't care for it either.

Beads921

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is? He is terribly unromantic in the traditional sense...soo, probably like a 2. I'm almost completely satisfied with the way things are though, so he really deserves a 9 or so.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)? Honestly, I have no idea haha. Like Mutley said, it's the little things. If I get home to the sink full of dishes done and the laundry folded, it makes my day. I am a sucker for flowers though, and a few months ago he thought I was having a crappy day so he picked some up and set them on my pillow for when I got home. It was so sweet and totally cheered me up. 

Is he good about birthdays and anniversaries? Birthdays and Christmas - yes. Anniversaries - no. Our 4th anniversary is actually this week. He'd be just as happy to stay home and not celebrate. Lame. I'll probably plan something for us (at his request), but probably not this week (thanks to my *not* awesome work schedule). But birthdays and Christmas are a whole other story. He's so sweet about them, and always gets all excited. I love it. We don't really do birthdays up, we just do small-ish gifts and dinner, but for Christmas we go all out for each other, and I'm always terribly spoiled in every way. 

What romantic thing does he hate? Most of it. We're really not into traditional romance, and we don't celebrate Valentines day or anything. Some people would have a major problem with that, but I always find those lavish gestures just make me feel weird/awkward, so I'm happy for the small, less-romantic-more-just-nice things (like building a purdy archway in what used to be an awkward doorway...made my day when that got going yesterday). 

deburnin

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
He's pretty romantic. I'd say 8/10

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
Hmm, that's a tough one... He does so many little things every day... But the one thing that comes to mind is last year, I'd broken my big toe (snapped the nail off completely. ugh) and then got really sick on top of it. I was in a huge funk and pretty much on my own all the time because of his job and my lack of a car and the whole feeling like death thing.

He came home from working a ten+ hour shift and asked me what I wanted for dinner. I said soup, something creamy, and proceeded to pass back out. I woke up to him coming in the bedroom with bags full of my favorite foods. Funfetti cake mix, three different kinds of creamy soups, a bread bowl and dip, popcorn, rootbeer, and I don't even know what else.

It wasn't a let's make out kind of romantic because I felt like shiit. lol But it made me melt that he cared so much.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Minus that one time he told his buddy it was ok for him to play a gig on my birthday, he does great. lol After another band member's significant other's b-day also fell on a show date they made the rule no shows on GFs' birthdays anymore. lol

Now for our anniversary we take a one night trip to Niagara Falls, but those are always a wonderfully relaxing time.

What romantic thing does he hate?

Foot massages? I don't know if they're romantic persay, but I love them and he hates giving (and getting) them. 

misikes

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
On a scale of 1-10, I'd say he's probably about a 4 or a 5. He prides himself a little too much on being a "hardass" that he wouldn't ever let himself get too terribly mushy or touchy-feely. Not that he's not loving, he's just not one for romance.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
FI takes really good care of me. While we were on vacation, I was having a lot of problems with my neck (which has had swelling over the past several years that presses on nerves) and it was so uncomfortable to do anything but just lay there. He went out, bought me a heated neck massager, set it up for me, and tucked me into bed. It was really sweet.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Eh, not really, but I think that comes with most guys. He'd remember important things like my birthday, and perhaps our wedding anniversary, but he can't even remember his own aunt's name.

What romantic thing does he hate?
He's not one for public displays of affection. I mean, he'll kiss me in public, hold my hand, and all that, but we both can't stand to see a couple all over each other or being inappropriate.

desertsun

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
Yup, I'm with PPs. MH is not romantic in the traditional sense of flowers, jewelry, grand gestures etc. He's really kind of a misanthrope, though, so it's kind of a big deal that he just really LIKES me and wants to be around me. LOL

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
Just the way he looks at me is romantic to me, b/c I can FEEL how much he loves me just by how he looks at me, how he touches me, etc. I always feel loved, and that's about as romantic as it gets, IMO.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
It took him like 2 years to learn my birthday. Now that we're married, he's good about our anniversary. But we didn't have an official date we got together, so we picked one that we thought was close and just made sure we spent time doing something together on or around that day. He gets me sappy cards, and I really like them, b/c I know that he gets them b/c they say what he can't and he really means whatever they say.

What romantic thing does he hate?

Talking about feelings.

callalily13

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is? Around 7 or 8/10

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)? 
-When we were first dating he made me a necklace out of a seashell that we had picked up on a beach walk and carved it into a heart.
-He also wrote things that he loved about me on pieces of paper and gave them to me in a glass cookie jar. There were probably over a hundred slips of paper in it.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys? 
One of the most meaningful was that when he was in the hospital he was barely able to move and begged his mother to bring a laptop so that he could look for something to get me for X-mas. So he found something he liked and got his mom to get it for him (he payed), so that he would still be able to surprise me with a present for x-mas. I was shocked. It was a beautiful necklace that was my birthstone.

What romantic thing does he hate?  Not really anything.

alanna91

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
-Jeez..he's the most romantic guy I know. He's not PDA about it, but when it's just the two of us you can tell :-)

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
Just off the top of my head: I'm constantly running late and forgetting things. He's always prepared with the cellphone I left in the bathroom or my car keys that fell under a sweatshirt by the table. Also, depending on the time of day, he'll make me a quick lunch or breakfast. A few times a week I'll quickly panic like "Oh no..I left my purse under my bed..." or something like that, and he's always like "Nope, it's in the backseat! I grabbed it for you."
I think it's the cutest thing and it really makes me realize how much I'd be lost without him. I think a 22 year old guy trying to make his girlfriend a tofurky sandwich and grabbing her purse when she's out the door is romantic . 

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Yeah, he always remembers mine. Not anyone elses, but I'm their to remind him of that
We've only had four anniversaries so far but he's remembered all of them. He's even managed to remember the half year anniversaries!

What romantic thing does he hate?
He thinks overly showy "romance" on Facebook is ridiculous. Kind of like the stuff you'd see on STFU Couples.

Peaseblossom55

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

I would say a 7, especially in the beginning of our relationship

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?

in the beginning of our relationship he would surprise me with flowers and leave them in places, on my car in my mailbox. It was so sweet, he would also leave me really sweet cards with them.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?

Very good about birthdays, anniversarys too.  Although as I'm trying to plan our two year coming up, I'm not getting any answers from him about what he wants to do and when he can take off.

What romantic thing does he hate?

I don't know I haven't found anything.  He doesn't seem to make too much of a deal out of valentine's day though, we just go out to dinner exchange cards and such.  

mookow86

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
He's very romantic. Like anyone looking in on our relationship would gag at how sweet he is lol.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
In terms of day to day stuff, I'm with other people on the romantic-ness of him doing dishes and making the bed and all that. He knows I really really hate doing the dishes. But in terms of a special one time thing, when he was traveling out of the country for a few months and I was really stressed out about a huge deadline at work, he sent me an Edible Arrangement with a teddy bear.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Yes he always remembers my birthday- he's really good about getting me something sweet and meaningful. Neither of us is really big on anniversaries.

What romantic thing does he hate?
He hates flowers and Valentine's Day, Sweetest Day, all that.

Hazel_B

I'm with Mutley on this in that I think it depends on the couple. I'd also add where in their relationship changes things too. I don't find the traditional very romantic simply because it comes across as thoughtless to me.

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

He was more traditionally romantic earlier on. I'm pretty happy with how romantic he is now though, it is more my style anyways.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?

Coming home from visiting my parents to a fully installed chandelier in our diningroom (my birthday gift) and a bottle of one of our potential wedding wines on the table.  

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?

So far he's been really good.

What romantic thing does he hate?

That society tries to tell him what he should be doing.

bawidget

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
I want to give him a 9 for everyday romance (telling me he loves me and why everyday). He wakes me up in really sweet ways every morning and will do little chores that he knows I won't get to. When he's trying to be super romantic on a birthday/anniversary/christmas he's off the charts.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
It's really hard to think of just one so I'll have to get back to you. Yes my Bf is so sweet that I cannot norrow down the most romantic thing

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
He's extremely good and always gets me really thoughtful things. However, Christmas is when he shines. I'm like a little kid when it comes to the holidays so he makes a serious effort to make them special.

What romantic thing does he hate?
Valentine's day. It's a really contrived holiday that we just don't get behind. One year I was really feeling it and wanted to do all the dorky V day stuff and it really confused him. Neither of us really buy into Valentines day + we live in NE so it's too cold to leave the house on Feb. 14th.

motoLyn

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

I say out of 10 he's a 7 or 8.  It has never been the big things though he used to surprise me at work with flowers or have someone take me out to lunch for my bday and show up with balloons.  Now a days its the small things, like reaching for my hand when we are walking around or in the car or twirling my around in the parking lot and then kissing me.  Or telling me how beautiful I am and holding me in the early morning before I've had my coffee and fully alert.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?

When we bought the house he told me he  his dream was to fix the house up to what we dreamed of with his own hands so that we could start a family someday soon.  He asked me to please let him do that, what was I suppose to say "no"?  Of course you can.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?

He isn't really good about remembering dates, so he puts them in his calendar on his phone with alerts when the day comes near.  So far so good, BTW today is our anniversary.  Hahaha celebrated with a cup of coffee. 

What romantic thing does he hate?

I haven't found one yet.

[Deleted User]

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
I would have to rate my guy as a 9 or maybe even a 10. He is extremely romantic...and I love it. I would have to admit i'm pretty lucky in this department!

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
He has done all kinds of romantic things. He'll surprise me with flowers for no reason, he's taken me on surprise trips, he'll randomly stick a "you are loved" pin on my pillow for me to find on nights he's not there sometimes. Possibly the most romantic thing he's ever done was to take me on on a surprise picnic. He picked a spot by a river in the mountains, sent me hiking and when I got back he had quite a spread laid out: cheese, bread, meats, fruit, wine...mmm. Super sweet and I had no idea it was coming!

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
He is awesome at both.

Best B-Day - can't decide between these 2:
1. He took me on a surprise weekend get away to Glenwood Springs, CO. We took the train from Denver, he rented a room at a historic hotel, we toured the caverns there and swam in the hot springs.
2. He surprised me with a horseback ride through the Garden of the Gods park. I was wearing shorts and flip flops, but he had secretly packed my jeans, hat and boots. He also planned a nice lunch out afterward.

Best Anniversary: I came home and he had a bubble bath set up when I got home from work, complete with rose petals, chocolates and wine.

What romantic thing does he hate?
I can't think of anything actually. Maybe....chick flicks? haha. That's about all I can come up with.

DanieKA

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

I'm w/beads and others who say my SO isn't very romantic in the traditional sense. I'd say a 2 if we're talking RomCom standards. But he takes what he has and makes it work. He loves cooking for us, and since I'm more of a baker, this is awesome. At his job, there is a lady that does floral arrangements and leaves them there weekly. Sometimes he'll bring me a stolen bloom or two. Some women wouldn't find that romantic because he doesn't buy them, but the sentiment always touches me. But he's not a surprise me with candles, a piece of jewelry, or romantic weekend getaway kind of guy. Sometimes I wish he was a little but more like that (you know, without me having to ask him to do it, which I wouldn't do anyway), but I am very happy with our relationship. He may not buy me things, or take me out to fancy restaurants, but you should hear the sweet things he whispers into my ear. Swoon. 

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?

We went to see Flogging Molly this past valentine's day. That was kind of a dude-centric thing, so after the show he suggested a moonlit walk around centennial olympic park. That was pretty romantic. He likes to take care of me and make sure I have the things I need. When I was studying for the Bar he drove up to see me for a quick second and brought homemade chicken because he knew I wasn't eating right (snacks and sugar help me study). He also loves to cuddle on the couch when we watch tv and that's a nice, everyday romantic thing.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?

He's bad at dates, but he is good about being thoughtful about his gifts. His taste isn't really my style, but I love everything he's given me because he takes time to think about it and he really tries. 

What romantic thing does he hate?

Um, I don't know. 

ravenray

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?

 I tend to agree with others he doesn’t spend a lot of time buying me flower and jewelry and chocolate but he does say/do some amazing things that make me melt.    So I would say 9/10.

 

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)? 

Hmm I couldn’t say that there is one thing.  He used to write me letters in Germany, he dances with me in the store, sometimes he just opens his mouth and says the most romantic things about why he loves me and I almost always melt(he isn’t good with his feelings).  Sending me good morning texts that say I love you, sometimes it is just the way he looks at me and I can feel how much he loves me.    It is good.  I love him just the way he is.  When we first started dating I use to wish that he was more expressive with his feelings but then I realized that he IS just not through talking and I adore it and appreciate it now.

 

Is he good about birthdays and anniversaries?

Yep.  Birthdays are always nice.  Anniversaries aren’t that important to us but we normally do something like dinner.  Though idk if that will change with our marriage date, most likely not though.

 

What romantic thing does he hate?

Talking about his feelings.  And flowers he thinks they are dumb.  He tired to bring me a potted plant to cheer me up but I have already killed it….  So IDK but he did bring me beautiful carnations this week for no reason

AnneR15

How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is?
The first year we were dating, probably a 10 out of 10. These days, maybe a 7? Although, like PP, it's more about the little things than the grand romantic gestures. He gets a 10/10 for saying "I love you" every day. And doing the dishes.

What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)?
He moved across the country (Texas to Virginia), away from all his family and friends, to live in the same city as me the last year I was in college. Everyone thought he was crazy (he probably was), but I still get mushy when I remember that he did that.

Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys?
Yep. In fact, one year I was the one who got our anniversary date wrong. I had to ask him which day it was to be sure - he loved that.

What romantic thing does he hate?
hmm, I bet there's something, but it's obviously not something I care about, since I can't think of one.

jaycee7389

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_romantic?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dfacccdf-fa7d-4413-95d7-4fb716bb7cf9Post:4c5c9a62-b650-4c11-aef5-0a5a6f9b35f6">Re: How romantic is your SO?</a>:
[QUOTE]How would you rate your SO on how romantic he is? The first year we were dating, probably a 10 out of 10. These days, maybe a 7? Although, like PP, it's more about the little things than the grand romantic gestures. <strong>He gets a 10/10 for saying "I love you" every day. And doing the dishes. </strong>What is the most romantic thing he ever did (besides proposing if you're engaged/married)? He moved across the country (Texas to Virginia), away from all his family and friends, to live in the same city as me the last year I was in college. Everyone thought he was crazy (he probably was), but I still get mushy when I remember that he did that. Is he good about birthdays and anniversarys? Yep. In fact, one year I was the one who got our anniversary date wrong. I had to ask him which day it was to be sure - he loved that. What romantic thing does he hate? hmm, I bet there's something, but it's obviously not something I care about, since I can't think of one.
Posted by AnneR15[/QUOTE]

Haha that is exactly what I'd say about FI.