Is it too early to mail out my invites?

loopy82

They are all stuffed, sealed and sitting in a bag next to the dining room table ready to be mailed.

I keep being told its too early. I just want to get it checked off my list of things to do.
Wedding : August 27
RSVP: August 9

OOT Guests - maybe about 1/4 - 1/3 (by OOT, I'm counting anyone who lives 2+ hours away)

So what do you think? Send them out or wait? Wait until when?

CT324

Send them out the more notice the better

SarahHermosa

I say send them. I dont know proper ettiquite, but I do know if I was an out of town guest, I would appreciate the time to make arrangements, I book my weekend way in advance because I am so active, and would love to attend a friend's wedding, so the more notice the better! By the way when should I expect my invite? jk Way to be on top of things!

[Deleted User]

I'd say sending them out in the next couple of weeks wouldn't be a bad idea...

Ana_2985

No, I wouldn't send them yet.  A lot of people won't know whether or not they can make it this far out anyway, so I don't see the point.  If you send them too early, people may be more likely to forget to send the reply back by the deadline.

Did you send save the dates?  If not, and you're really worried about it you could send them to the OOT people.  But then there's the issue of people talking to each other and thinking they weren't invited because they didn't get an invite let.  I wouldn't want to worry about that.

If it was me, I would wait.

Edit:  I would wait until the end of June.

Hazel_B

I'm not sure about etiquette either, but I would say send them. You have numerous OOT guests who would appreciate the notice and you are having a summer wedding - people make plans early and hotels can book up.

katanne9

I'm 2 weeks ahead of you and mine haven't gone out yet. Hopefully by next week they will!

I would wait another 2 weeks until the end of June.

hetshup

10 weeks out is the max I guess. Just sit tight on them for a few more weeks.  Actually, I just looked at your tracker, wait a week then send them, esp if you have lots of OOT guests.

loopy82

I did have save the dates that went out around Christmas. So the people that are invited are aware of when the date is.

I kind of suspected I should wait. Uggh. Yes, I know if I send them out too far in advance people will forget about the RSVP.

Thanks for the input. I will wait another week or two. I honestly don't think I will be able to wait much longer than that. I don't want them in my house anymore...

chipypony

I think it would make a little difference if you had STD's or not. If so you can wait a couple more weeks. If not, i would still wait a couple more weeks until the end of June. You don't want people to forget to RSVP.

JaysGirl04

Send them I think you are at perfect timing they say 6-8 weeks before your RSVP date/.

dwest2201

I say get them in the mail in a week or two... no need to rush or anything, but with a lot of OOT guests they will be appreciative of the extra time.  As far as people knowing or not ahead of time... well that could be an issue, but lots of people also have very busy schedules in the summer with vacations and other weddings... plus thats about back to school time for kiddo's so I say send.  Also, no matter how much time you give some people won't respond till the last minute and others you'll ahve to call and remind them that they didn't RSVP.

loopy82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_early-mail-out-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e32e7907-41a7-4aae-8f10-0d2fd949f069Post:ae63d11b-f879-49fc-8280-68980b2b70e9">Re: Is it too early to mail out my invites?</a>:
[QUOTE] Also, no matter how much time you give some people won't respond till the last minute and others you'll ahve to call and remind them that they didn't RSVP.
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

Ughh. Yes. This part frustrates me. I've already told my mother that she is in charge of calling her relatives that don't RSVP. They make up about 65% of the guest list and will probably make up 90% of the late responders.

jbplanner

I say send them out...get them out of the way and scratch another task off your list!  You're right at your 2 month mark!

desertsun

I don't see a problem with sending them 8 weeks before your RSVP date. 

Especially if it will reduce your stress!

There are always going to be people who will RSVP right away, and people who RSVP late. I don't know that when you send them will really make a difference.

Again, if it will make you feel better, do it now. 

KD+BC

I don't think you'll gain anything by sending them now, other than getting them out of your house. It won't hurt to wait and it might be more of a pain to send them out too early.

tafft1

I think it comes down to what you would prefer to do. Since you did send out save the dates , people did have fair warning before this to at least make tentative plans. As for my personal situation , we are getting married August 21st , but originally was going to be next May , so we sent ours out last week since it was such a drastic change.

I don't see the harm in waiting nor sending them out now. Do what you feel is best

oceana919

I second katanne and say wait until the end of June. If you had a lot of OOT guests (like, over 50%) I would say the earlier the better, but I think the end of June gives your guests plenty of notice.

notquiteblushing

I'd wait another week.

nefariousmango

I sent mine out in early April, but we have guests coming from all over and several from other hemispheres... my sister JUST recieved her invite yesterday! 

I still think it's okay to send them now.  Most of my domestically-located guests replied quickly, and I got the final flood of RSVPs this week so only a couple people still need to RSVP with six days to our cut-off.  So yeah, I don't think people will forget to reply even if they don't know if they can come or not atm.