OMG WTF WWYD?

Button5807

I was in one of the shared network folders on my work computer and came across some um, very private pictures of a coworker. (the only other female here who isn't related to the owner)

Not sure how to proceed here...

Goldlie11

I would pretend that I never saw them.  That's just me.  Sorry you had to go through that.  I can't even begin to imagine.

katanne9

It's awkward, but I would probably confront your co-worker. I WOULD say go to the boss, but if something happened as an honest mistake I'd hate to get someone fired.

IDK, it depends what she's like. Or maybe I would go to your boss if she's unprofessional all the time and is always crossing lines.

Ick, the whole thing is awkward Sorry buttons

babybchbum

I'm sorry you came across them. I would let the individual know so that they can remove them. If you were able to find them so can everyone else.

Button5807

I'm kind of wrestling with myself on this one b/c I don't really like her very much, she's lazy and extremely dishonest but at the same time even though my boss is sitting about ten feet away from me I don't think I have the cajones to actually say anything, it's too embarassing.
I still in shock but I think the best course of action is probably to just let them be and maybe someone else will stumble across them and tell. I don't feel like doing her any favors by deleting them.

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry you came across them. I would let the individual know so that they can remove them. If you were able to find them so can everyone else.
Posted by babybchbum[/QUOTE]
This is awesome advice.  I honestly don't know if I would have to guts to look my coworker in the eye and tell her about it unless we were cool with each other.  

desertsun

Please tell her. Regardless of how you feel about her, that's the right thing to do. Don't let personal opinions of people compromise your integrity. Be the bigger person.

notquiteblushing

Ok, by looking at the pictures can you definitely and without a doubt tell that it's her and not you?  Not that you have naked pics floating around your work computer but in case someone else has seen them and might think it could go either way.

If the answer is yes I would leave them be.  What a friggen weirdo.  Do you think she saved them not knowing the folder was shared?

Button5807

Desert you make a good point.
Should I wait until Monday? (I'm the only on here for the rest of the day & the 1st one in) or call her now/over the weekend?

paintgirl

I hate to say it, but you need to think about yourself for a second here. What would happen if your boss found out you had accessed "private" photos - of anyone - on your company computer? In this case, you could obviously explain it was by mistake/accident and the blame would go elsewhere, but I wouldn't go down with the ship for a co-worker that you already say is dishonest.

Button5807

NQB it's absolutely her down to the odd hair color.
If I had to guess I'd say she took them off her camera and forgot to delete them whenever she was done doing whatever with them.
I'm trying to remember the last time I felt this awkward about something, what a way to end the week lol

paintgirl

Wow you need an adult beverage or two tonight. What an awkward situation!

Button5807

Paint girl I don't see this coming down on me, it's the work computer, it was a folder I have to access for my job. We're not supposed to save our own stuff to the computers anyway.

desertsun

Button, I'd tell her ASAP just so I didn't have to waste any precious weekend time thinking about it.

Acrosthec

I'd go ahead and tell her.  If you don't particularly like her and want to actually talk to her about it, you can just send her a text.

"Hey Molly, I found some pictures of you on the shared folder that you probably don't want everyone to see.  Just wanted to let you know so you could delete them before someone else sees them.  Have a good weekend!"

Done.  Civil, informative, and you didn't even have to talk to her.

notquiteblushing

Can you telll what day she saved them?  If it was more than a few days ago maybe you should just delete them.  Maybe she forgot they were there.  Who does that though?  Yikes!

KD+BC

What would I do? I would probably pretend I never saw them, especially if I wasn't really friends with the girl. However, I do agree that it might be nice of you to let her know so she can delete them. Basically I'm no help. Sorry you're dealing with this!

MidniteRae

You could tell/(remind?) her that she has private pictures in the shared photo. And I don't know if you want to get into this, but you could tell her that if she does not remove them, you will tell the boss. Or since you boss is near you, you could call him/her over and tell (and show?) or something to avoid your co-worker lying about them.

dwest2201

I selected leave them be, basically act like you never even saw them.  However, I can understand people saying you should tell her about them... I would have a hard time telling someone that I didn't care for to go back and cover their tracks for something that they knwo that they damn well shouldn't ahve been doing at work... I mean come on, I would find it hard to tell my very closest co-worker that! 

Perhaps a text as previously mentioned wouldn't be tooo difficult... but if you aren't close you might not have her cell number and unless you have company cell's not everyone gives their personal number out.

Yikes!  Good Luck getting it off your mind and conscious!

Button5807

Sorry for ditching but the boss called and told me I could leave then we didn't have internet at the house last night.
I actually ended up sending her a text that was almost word for word what Acro suggested. The only response I got was "fine" which I thought was weird but whatever I don't have to worry about it anymore.
I'm just going to add she's massive sketchball to the list of reasons I don't care for her.

desertsun

Button, I'm really glad that you told her.

It sucks that she was kind of a biitch about it, but you didn't do it for her to be nice to you. You did it b/c it was the right thing to do. Don't you have a nice morally superior glow now?

KD+BC

Fine?!?!? Weirdo! I think it was really nice of you to tell her. Now you don't have to think about it (I hope).

notquiteblushing

Fine?  Fine?!  Wow you work with a bunch of strange people.

Button5807

I tired not to think about it but I was wracking my brain all day and trying to figure out why she answered the way she did. Best I can come up with is she's sort of an ice queen so being mortified doesn't register in her brain.

Also, I ever got a text like that I'm not sure how or if I would respond. Thankfully I'm not stupid enough to ever get myself in that position.

ekathleen684

A coworker of mine did they but it was with a personal finance disclosure.
She was told immediately about it by another coworker. I would let this person know so they could take care of it.

Button5807

So I went through the entire day at work yesterday w/o a single word from her. It was to the point where someone asked if her and I had a disagreement. I'm operating under the assumption that she's mortified but since I don't like her all that much the devil on my shoulder kept trying to throw the words naked, stripped down, exposed, etc into coversation yesterday, I was able to behave myself though.

Acrosthec

Glad my suggestion seemed to do the job, but I'm sorry she's reacting so strangely to it.  My response to something like that would've been OMG, THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME KNOW!  but, you know, I have a shred or two of dignity and modesty.  ;-)

Just try and ignore her.  She's acting like a pain, but you did the right thing.  I'd give her a few days to get over herself, and then if that doesn't happen, the next time someone asks why she's mad at you I'd just tell them the truth and let her deal with the boss's wrath.