Besides Saturday, which days of the week do you find acceptable for a wedding?

Narwhal

FI and I aren't close enough to our projected wedding date to book anything, but we're starting to brainstorm with some venues. One of which, has a significantly lower price (see, 800plus dollars) for having a Monday-Thursday wedding. The difference for having a Sunday wedding is only about $100, and the Friday price is the same as Saturday. Our guest list is only going to consist of close family and friends.

If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?

What if the Monday is Labor Day?

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?

bethsmiles

If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?
I would prefer a Thursday.

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?
Then definatly a Thursday

What if the Monday is Labor Day?
Then I would prefer Monday

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?
Not really since I prefer Thursday over Monday

hetshup

Thursday. Be prepared to not have people come. I will, naturally, and hide in the bushes. If it's Thursday, people can take a long weekend. 

Labor day doesn't change things to me, I would slightly annoyed that I would have to give up my long weekend for a wedding. Vs giving me a long weekend. 

This all makes sense in my head. 

skyler1108

Actually I am having my wedding on a Thursday so I would say Thursday.

Look at it this way. If you have a Thursday wedding people can take Thursday and Friday off and have a nice long week end to celebrate with you. If you have a Monday wedding people will still take two days off but will most likely not be able to stay afterwards to celebrate with you.

Therefore I say go for a Thursday.

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If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?
thursday... i'd make it an excuse to have a long weekend! 

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?
thursday...  long weekend again.

What if the Monday is Labor Day?
i would not prefer monday:
1.  that's my holiday weekend, so if i wanted to go somewhere i'd either have to come back early or miss the wedding. 
2.  guests would have to be back at work the next day, so it would cut any "party-ing" short... or leave guests really tired/hungover.  and i can't realistically imagine many people taking off the tuesday after a long weekend to recoup from a wedding, even though it would be great!

if you were going to choose labor day weekend, i would pick thursday or friday but not monday.

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?
i prefer thursday over monday anyway, and if friday is a holiday (depending on the holiday) it would probably make thursday better for me, as i wouldn't have to work on friday.  but if it's a "traveling holiday" (labor day, memorial day, fourth of july, thanksgiving, christmas) then it might be a headache to have it then.

GreenPepperBurger

Out of Monday or Thursday, I would prefer the Thursday because of the reasons PPs have given. But honestly, unless I was superclose to the couple, going to a wedding on a weeknight would bug me.

Simply Fated

If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?
Monday, I suppose. If it's a Monday at least i'll be able to sleep late the night before or go to bed early so I won't be AS exhausted lol.

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?
If I wasn't able to take off from work, I'd have to decline the invitation. Although if I was close enough to you, and was willing to take time off from work, I'd much rather it be a Monday. The ends of the week are harder to take off from work on.

What if the Monday is Labor Day?
Then it would be fine, BUT I work in retail, so I might not be able to attend that day if it was a DW where I'd have to take off more than one day.

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?
If the Friday was a holiday, unless it was Christmas, no way would I be able to take off from work if it was a DW.

motoLyn

If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?

Like the PP Thursday cause I can technically take Friday off, and have a long weekend. Having a Monday wedding would make it hard for me to want to attend.

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?

If its a DW at this point either day is fine because I definitely have to take time off.  Still probably a thursday.  If it were a DW where people have to fly then Monday through Thursday cause it no longer matters.

What if the Monday is Labor Day?

I think it would be fine if the wedding is on a Monday is it were a Labor day weekend.  I wouldn't be staying late if I have to work the next day. 

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?

Yeah it would make a difference to me.  If Friday is a holiday then I can attend a wedding on a Thursday. 

jemmini6

We looked into weekday options when we first started planning because they were much cheaper at a lot of places.  The first place we really liked had their pricing for Sun-Thurs, so we would have gone with a Sunday.

As far as a Monday or Thursday, I'd definitely say Thursday just because it's easier for people to travel for it, etc.

I'd still look for Saturday options if at all possible, it's the most convenient for everyone, including you.  If not that, an extra $100 for a Friday or Sunday would still be more convenient for people than a Monday or Thursday.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]We looked into weekday options when we first started planning because they were much cheaper at a lot of places.  The first place we really liked had their pricing for Sun-Thurs, so we would have gone with a Sunday. As far as a Monday or Thursday, I'd definitely say Thursday just because it's easier for people to travel for it, etc. I'd still look for Saturday options if at all possible, it's the most convenient for everyone, including you.  <strong>If not that, an extra $100 for a Friday or Sunday would still be more convenient for people than a Monday or Thursday.</strong>
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

Just to clarify, I meant that Friday and Sunday prices wer just 100 dollar difference from a Saturday wedding. It's still about 600 dollars more than a Mon-Thurs wedding.

TheMutleys

It wouldn't matter to me what day of the week the wedding was for a close family member or very close friend.  I would do what I needed to do to be there.  Then again, 95% of the weddings we've attended have involved traveling.   
 
I would prefer a Thursday night because then we would get a long weekend.  I don't see the point in having a wedding on a Monday of a holiday weekend.  I would want the day after to recover.  

One downside to Thursday would be the rehearsal dinner aspect.  If it was local, then you could do it Wednesday evening.  However, if it was a DW, then that would be another day that people would have to take off.  I would just be upfront with the WP when you ask them or feel them out (or up) before you make any set plans. 

Most of our WP took off the Friday before our Saturday wedding.  We didn't ask anyone to do so.  Some of them were local but others were traveling from other states.  Our rehearsal was at 5 because that is when the Church said it had to be. 

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Besides Saturday, which days of the week do you find acceptable for a wedding? : Just to clarify, I meant that Friday and Sunday prices wer just 100 dollar difference from a Saturday wedding. It's still about 600 dollars more than a Mon-Thurs wedding.
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

Ah...that makes more sense.  We ran into a lot of that while we were looking for venues, but ended up finding a gorgeous venue that didn't charge extra for a Saturday wedding.  Although Sundays were usually the same price as weekday weddings for a lot of the places we looked at, so that seems a little odd to me.

If you are in love with that venue, I would personally choose a Thrusday over a Monday.  If it's just one you like that fits in your budget, I might consider looking more, you might not only find something cheaper for a weekend, but maybe one you like more.

garcias1

I would say that it is worth the extra $600 to have it on a Friday or Saturday if more of your guests will be able to come.  I know a lot of people my age who just started real jobs and can't just take days off whenever they want (they haven't earned enough vacation days yet).  But if you have a lot of guests with flexible schedules, than go for it.

mzm153

If less than 20 miles of travel were involved, would you rather a Thursday or Monday?
Definetely a Thursday. Monday would be very hard since you never know when many people would be able to get out of work besides not having another day to recover. Thursday would be okay as long as Friday is taken off thus giving an extra day to recover and have a long weekend.

How about if it were a DW (3-6 hour travel by car) anyway so overnight lodging would be necessary?
I believe neither Monday not Thursday would do. If I were a guest, I would not be able to make it due to my working hours. It would mean taking two days off rather than one.

What if the Monday is Labor Day?
Would still rather do it on a Thursday since it would be just like doing it Sunday with no time to recover, but I still would attend if it were on a Monday holiday.

Would it make a difference with the Thursday option is if the Friday is a holiday?
It would be even better than the Monday as a holiday.

Wrkn925

I scrolled, but I have to work on Labor day.    But I don't guess that matters since I won't be attending.

orangecrush32

I'd definitely go with a Thursday. Mondays just suck.

paintgirl

You're only planning to invite close friends and family so they would likely come on any day of the week. Thursday is probably easiest for most people, especially if they don't have to travel and would only have to take Friday off (or even for a short drive, maybe half a day on Thursday).

If there's someone in particular that you REALLY want there and might have trouble getting time off (or maybe is paid hourly and doesn't get vacation/can't afford to take off), maybe talk to them ahead of time. Otherwise, just go for it.

We have talked about a Friday wedding. Our friends and family would have to take that day off to get there (most would need to drive 4 hours or fly in - short flight). I'm not worried about it. Frankly, I'm hoping it will bump off the few people I feel I "have" to invite but hope won't come.

Do Thursday. If it's going to be an overnight for most people, consider doing breakfast or brunch the next morning - but only if you can do it without spending an ever-loving fortune. It's a wedding DAY - not WEEKEND.

PaigeMcC

Personally, I would attend a wedding for a close friend on any night of the week.  However, Thursday would be the best becuase then you just have to take Friday...and enjoy your long weekend.

palmettogirl924

My friend is having a Thursday wedding 4 days after Christmas... they are saving bucos of dollars.

Now, besides that being a MAJOR holiday, I think a Thursday of an ordinary week would be best.

oceana919

I VOTE BAHAMAS.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]I VOTE BAHAMAS.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

I rescind my earlier vote and go to this. BAHAMA MAMA!!!

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]I VOTE BAHAMAS.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

Talk FI into it, and I'm game. And the only people invited will be UBs.

zipis1

Basically anywhere from Friday to Sunday is fine with me. But I thrive on sleep deprivation sooo...

hetshup

You should probably invite your parents too. 

Even though we'd totally be more fun. 

loves2shop4shoes

I vote Thursday!  Honestly, if your guests live less than 30 miles away, it shouldn't be a huge issue.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]You should probably invite your parents too.  Even though we'd totally be more fun. 
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

We'll see.
We'll see.