Our parents met for the 1st time today

[Deleted User]

Well, actually it was just on the phone (my parents live in the same city we do and FI's parent's live in FL).  FI and I are both religious, as are my parents, but his dad and step-mom are well, they're at church at least 5 days a week. 

I've only talked to FI's parents on the phone or via email and get along great with them.  My mom said they talked for about an hour, had a great talk and she said they were very nice, but...wow.

So, if you your parents have met your SO's parents, how did the first meeting go?

deburnin

I was still in high school when they first met. I'm pretty sure it was after our senior musical so it wasn't all that big of a deal. We'd only been dating for about a month at that point. Since then BF's dad has passed away and his mom never really shows much interest in getting to know my family any better.

bajediva

Our parents met before we were born, so one less relationship hurdle for us! They were part of the same youth group as teenagers, my mom was a bridesmaid when his parents got married, while my uncle gave *him away. We met as kids as our families visited back and forth.

EDIT: *her (his mom)

bourgehm

My parents met FI's parents during a corn feed at FI's church. It was kind of awkward for them because my entire crazy extended family was there. Of course everyone had to say hello and talk to them and I think it was a bit overwhelming for FI's parents. After the meeting though, FI's parents did say 'well this wedding will be fun!'

[Deleted User]

bajediva - that certainly makes things easier for you guys.

bourgehm - that sounds like how my FI felt the first time I took him to church with me...I'd been single so long (he went to church with me the 1st time one our 1st "monthiversary") that about everyone in church wanted to meet him and welcome him and pump him full of questions - he smiled through it all, though.

bethsmiles

Our parents met at Thanksgiving. It went really well. Our moms e-mail each other all the time. They seem to like each other which is good because we are both close to our familes.

tafft1

I think my FI had it easy - I have no family left to speak of so no one to meet - Though I assure him if my mom was still alive she would have adored him so much

On the flipside I met his dad for the first time on my second visit out in California when I was still living in Washington state. He was very easy going and easy to talk to - very much felt like I belonged quite early , was a sense of family very early on and it has only grown from there. FI's mother I met a few months ago..and not sure what she thinks of me as everyone thinks she is going crazy anyway..

ekathleen684

Our parents are very similar so they get along great. I think the first time they met was sometime in high school? I don't actually remember.

KD+BC

How exciting for you Angie!

My dad actually knew Fi's mom long before I met FI. My dad is a TA in an elementary school and had FBIL and FSIL in his class when they were in 5th grade. My mom met his mom at my graduation party when I finished undergrad. At this point we had been dating for a year.

FI's parents are divorced and FI's dad couldn't make it to that party because of work. My parents finally met FI's dad when Fi and I bought our house almost 2 years ago.

It's weird because my parents run into FMIL and her FI a few times a year out at festivals and such but they have only seen FI's dad just that once.

Hazel_B

That's great Angie!

Our parents haven't met yet, but it was a close call in July. If his parents' visit had been more than a weekend then my BF wanted to invite my parents up to visit us and meet them. It'll be a challenge for them to meet considering his parents are a 8 hour flight away and my parents are a 6+ hour drive away, so we will see when the next opportunity presents itself.

bsidebella

My mom met BF's parents at Passover a year ago. It was my grandmother's idea, because she loves BF and she wanted to include his parents in the seder. 

I guess it went okay. It was a family thing so I couldn't really get a read on how my mom feels about his parents. Not like she would tell me the truth to begin with. She said they were nice but she has very little in common with his parents, they didn't really say much to one another. I don't think his parents care very much for my mom though. I get that vibe from them. Although, this past Mother's Day it was Mom's idea to invite them out for brunch. That was the 3rd time they've been in the same room.

I don't see them becoming friends or spending time with eachother unless BF and I force them to.

rickylee244

We arranged a meeting for our parents.  Honestly I dont even remember what the circumstances even were.  Thats not really important anymore, because now our moms' talk on a regular basis to the point that THEY were planning a get together for the 4 of them.  

I really knew they would get along great when I took my mom and MIL to shop for my wedding dress .... they bonded together to fight with me that I should wear my veil the entire wedding (I won in the long run).

PaigeMcC

I'm glad it went well with your parents!!

FI's parents met mine when we'd been dating about a year (so 3 years ago).  I knew they'd get along well.  His dad is very similar to my mom and his mom is similar to my dad.  They've never spent more than an hour or two together but they both seem to like each other and they're always asking after one another so seems good to me;)

[Deleted User]

My FI, of course, loves his dad (step-mom is wife #3, but has been around for a long time), but says he's glad we don't live in the same state (the extreme religion thing with them would be a little too much to take on a daily basis I think).  I think we'll all get along just fine because we'll all make the effort.  My parents love my FI and he's already calling my mom, "mom" instead of her name (and she beams over it).

Thanks everyone for sharing your stories!

fontassidy

Our parents met when we moved in together last summer...we hosted a memorial day BBQ at our new house so that we could get them together (we'd been dating about a year at that point). It went fine and my mom and his seemed to get along really well. His stepdad is kind of socially awkward though, and didn't even really hang out with everyone (watched sports inside the whole time? lol....)....

Our parents both live within a couple hours of us in opposite directions, but I don't think we'll be getting everyone together all that often until perhaps we're really engaged and start actually planning the wedding. Then I can see our moms and my dad wanting to be pretty involved with us & being around one another more often, but not so much his step-dad. I doubt any of them will become best friends but I think as far as in-laws go, we'll all manage to make family scenarios work. (I imagine things will change a LOT when we start to make babies, hahaha!)

dwest2201

FI and I have know each others parents for over 10 years, but our parents never met. 

My dad and his FI met FI's parents memorial day weekend when FI had a grillout/party to celebrate his birthday and graduation from the fire academy.  FI's parents invited them and my aunts over to their house for my birthday and to celebrate our engagement last month as well.  They all seem to get along well... our dads hit it off great, which we were a little worried about because FI's dad can be a little quiet some times.

motoLyn

My parents met my BF's parents this past July.  Just after he and I moved in with each other, after dating for a year and knowing each other for two years.  BF's mom really wanted to meet my folks.  As I look back on it both moms were really gung ho about having a Vietnamese-Danish family meet and greet.  My family lives 50 miles north of us and his family is 20 miles south.  So we met in the middle for dinner.  A bit nerve wracking cause he has 7 people in his immediate family (mom, step-dad, three sisters and two brothers), my family that attended (mom, dad, sister, brother in law, niece,. grandma and younger brother).  On top of that his family is Danish mine is Vietnamese and his mom needs to eat gluten free.  

I sent out invites to each family with cows on the front about herding the families together and we ate at Cheesecake Factory.  I personally wrote a note on each of them and hoped for the best.  

Needless to say the moms sat next to each other, the meal went off splendidly and at some point we're suppose to get together for a BBQ.  Language barrier was a bit troublesome but there were enough Danglish and Vinglish translators to smooth things out.  I'm glad things went smoothly for you, I know some people where the families didn't meet till the rehearsal dinner.  My married friend's piece of advice to me was have them meet earlier.  

leia1979

My parents live one mile from us, but BF's parents live 2,000 miles away. My parents met BF's dad very briefly when BF and I moved in together a little over a year ago. His dad was in town for the weekend and he helped us load the U-Haul. That's it, though.

I worry a little in that BF's parents are kind of conservative/religious. I think they'd get along fine with my mom, but maybe not with my outspoken, Catholic-turned-Agnostic and not a fan of organized religion dad.

jemmini6

Our parents haven't met yet.  My parents live in town and his live about 3 hours away, but they come up fairly often to visit (I probably see them more than my own parents).  His parents ask about mine all the time though, both of my parents have been unemployed for over a year and they are always interested to see how their search is going and tell me to wish them luck.  I think they will get along fairly well, but I don't necessarily expect them to be best buddies (my parents are a little more rough around the edges I suppose).  It's also nice that I get along with his parents really well and my parents absolutely LOVE my BF.  I think we'll try to arrange an official meeting once we are finally engaged.  Possibly and engagment party/bbq for our families to meet....we'll see

nationalvixen

My parents live here in Toronto, as do my Fi and I, but my Fi's entire family live in South America! I have talked to them on webcam once, so we have seen each other but they speak another language so communication is limited.

Fi has met my Mom and Step Father though, and its a great mutual love

ki10

Oh, man. We're working on arranging a meeting in a few months. It'll go fine because they're all incredibly passive-aggressive and polite, but they're completely opposite people. FH's parents are wealthy, snobbish doctors. My mum's a farmer's daughter, never worked full-time due to giving up her career to live in a small town where my father was happily employed, and now a rather successful tchotchke artist. She'll love them because she loves everyone, and they'll hate her because she loves everyone.

dwest2201

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_parents-met-1st-time-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e8b21b49-16b0-4e0d-9aaf-891911595c05Post:2518a647-907a-4f62-99f3-fb502945b41a">Re: Our parents met for the 1st time today</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, man. We're working on arranging a meeting in a few months. <strong>It'll go fine because they're all incredibly passive-aggressive</strong> and polite, but they're completely opposite people. FH's parents are wealthy, snobbish doctors. My mum's a farmer's daughter, never worked full-time due to giving up her career to live in a small town where my father was happily employed, and now a rather successful tchotchke artist. She'll love them because she loves everyone, and they'll hate her because she loves everyone.
Posted by ki10[/QUOTE]

<div id="mwEntryData"><div>Main Entry: <strong>passive–aggressive</strong></div><div>Function: <em>adjective</em> </div><div>Date: 1946</div><p class="d"> <strong>:</strong> being, marked by, or displaying behavior characterized by the expression of negative feelings, resentment, and aggression in an unassertive passive way (as through procrastination and stubbornness)</p><p class="r">— <strong>passive–aggressive</strong> <em>noun</em></p><p class="r"> </p><p class="r"><em>This should be an interesting meeting...
</em> </p></div>

Bec20

My father has never met either of BF's parents.  He and I don't have a great relationship though, so it's not really a surprise.

My mother met BF's parents after we had been dating for about 3 weeks.  It was the day of his prom and it was a few days before he turned 18.  They all seemed to get along pretty well.  Our mothers have had some good conversations and seem to get along pretty well.

natyasa

I love reading everyone's stories...it's just as interesting as knowing how you (the couple) has met.

And now for mine...

We did a series events to bring the families together. BF's dad works overseas and was going to be in town for two weeks this past June...so we did the following:

Took our moms to brunch in March and spent the day at a local artistry fair...

Me + siblings and BF + siblings all took our moms out to dinner for Mother's Day (where we all had margaritas and got whoozy, good times indeed!) I have two younger brothers and he has two younger sisters, and they're all very close to the same age (+/- five years), so it worked out well.

And finally...our parents met this past June. We had dinner then came to our house for fruits, dessert, and tea.

It was really great to tier these events because just having the moms meets took a lot of pressure off.  I couldn't be more thankful that both our parents get along. Our moms swap recipes and our dads love smoking hookah and watching soccer. They always ask about one another at this point...but I'm hoping they will become closer once we're engaged. Wishful thinking...