If you were a Bridesmaid...

KD+BC

would you like to receive this necklace as a gift as well as a more personalized gift? I know that they say to shop like it's their birthday but my girls have been complaining that I'm too laid back. I thought that I'd get them this necklace so they don't have to worry about getting jewelry for the wedding but also get them something that isn't for the wedding and is different for each girl.

jeanacorina

As long as you're getting them something personalized as well, I think that's great. Very classy.

winnipegk

Are you going to require that they wear it for the wedding? If I were a BM, I would probably wear it either way, but if you're going to ask them to wear it during the wedding, you'll want to get them something else that's more personalized and not for the day.

paintgirl

I like the necklace! I think it could be worn after the wedding too. I didn't know about this "shop like it's their birthday" thing. I say go with the necklace and maybe something small that's more personal?

KD+BC

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_were-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e9ca0bdd-84bd-45cc-a22e-a73d6441f8c8Post:1e6dfedc-f366-4f87-b7de-09860b486062">Re: If you were a Bridesmaid...</a>:
[QUOTE]Are you going to require that they wear it for the wedding? If I were a BM, I would probably wear it either way, but if you're going to ask them to wear it during the wedding, you'll want to get them something else that's more personalized and not for the day.
Posted by winnipegk[/QUOTE]

Yes, it would be for them to wear to the wedding but if I do this, I will be buying them something else for each of them, as I stated in the OP.

desertsun

LOL, KD, gotta love a good reading comprehension fail!

I think the necklace is pretty! 

KD+BC

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[QUOTE]LOL, KD, gotta love a good reading comprehension fail! :) I think the necklace is pretty! 
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I can understand missing a subtle point but I put it in there a couple times. Definitely a comprehension FAIL!

I like the necklace I think it's the type that will go with a BM dress but also can be casual. I want it for myself!

bethsmiles

I love the necklace! I think its a great gift to go along with a more personalized one

paintgirl

Hey when did this whole "shop like it's their birthday" thing come up? I thought it was acceptable to give wedding-related jewelry, especially if it could be worn other times. Maybe I'm cheap but how much are you supposed to spend here? Wild.

We won't be having a wedding party so I wouldn't have screwed this up.

KD+BC

Paint: I have never actually heard of this IRL but from lurking on the WP board it seems to be an opinion those girls feel really strongly about. I understand the rationale, if it's a gift to thank them for being in the wedding, getting them something to wear to the wedding isn't really a thank you gift. It is a pretty widely accepted thing around here to give wedding related gifts as well as identical gifts to each girl. I think if I do a combo of both, the girls will really appreciate it. I hope.

KD+BC

To the person who voted no: please post your opinion! I didn't post this for validation, but for opinions! Let's hear what you have to say!

paintgirl

Thanks for the explanation! I would have screwed this up. I couldn't remember what I voted - I think I voted "other".

jeanacorina

I did the "shop like it's their birthday" thing, but I am VERY into personal, unique gifts. I skipped the wedding jewelry thing altogether because I just don't mind what other people are wearing... so I don't want to pick out something they may or may not LIKE wearing.

Josh and I spent between $20-$40 on each attendant. It's more of a discrepency than I wanted, but I have to say I'm pleased with what we got. Each gift really suits the recipient (and they're all quality items), so I suppose the price isn't terribly important.

paintgirl

Jeana - That's totally reasonable! I was in a wedding awhile back and they spent a ton of money on wedding jewelry (UGLY), but no personal gift.

katanne9

KD if you love it than I would do it.


BTW, I waved at you when I drove past Cuse on Friday.

Also, while I totally understand the "buy like it's their bday" but I have yet to actually know a bride who did this. Everyone I have ever known has done jewelry for the wedding day. An interesting dichotomy between TK and IRL.

KD+BC

Haha I would have waved back if I had known!

And yes, it is strange how no one I know IRL actually does this. I mean, buying them all the same thing is pretty easy and maybe that's why. If I get this necklace, I only have an idea for one girl. I suck at buying gifts for birthdays, Christmas, showers, etc.

ekathleen684

I like that necklace. It's perfect for them to wear every day also.

'Round these parts, I have never seen anyone "buy like it's their birthday". Usually the bride gets jewelry for the wedding. I do like the idea of doing both, budget willing.

Ana_2985

I think it's perfectly fine.  If you think that's really a necklace all of your BM's would pick out on their own even better.

My sister gave all of her BMs a necklace and a gift card to our favorite stores.  The necklace was something that very simple that we would and do all wear again (we're all family so our tastes are pretty similar).  Not only did I not mind, but I liked it even more than the personalized gift.  It is more special to me.

So my point is, you know your friends best.  If you think they would love this necklace,  then this is a "rule" that's okay to break, IMO.  Even though I know you plan on getting the personalized gift as well.

nefariousmango

I love your idea.  I'm getting the girls freshwater pearl necklaces and matching earrings for the wedding day.  I wish I could get them something more personal, but since I bought their dresses... I'm not feeling particularly generous!