Response from STD's

ftrmrsweatherdon

I'm just wondering if people got any responses from their save the dates.

We sent our out last week. (A little early, but we wanted to do it before people started thinking about christmas, and we wanted to give some people enough notice, as theres some BIG travellers in our group, so we wanted to make sure no one was planning any vacations if they'd like to attend the wedding.)

Anyway, I'm surprised I havent' heard any response. I'm not sure what I was expecting. Maybe a quick email or text or msg, saying "Hey we got the STD! Can't Wait" or something to that affect. However only a hand full of people have even let us know they recieved it, and most of them are the actual wedding party (and my mom).

Am I weird for expecting some sort of response or what? I know if I recieved a STD I've be letting that person/couple know that I can't wait!

OwningAHome1981

You wont get a response probably b/c there's no call to action. People usually open it and put it on the fridge and that's it. Some of my close friends said how cute it was but I wouldn't expect to hear from most people.

JaneAustensGhost

Like PP said, people don't reply to STDs.  It's just a notice to hold that date for the future.   There's nothing to do when you get an STD.  Don't fret.

achiduck

An STD is a request to set the date aside. Guest's aren't required to tell you if they're coming or not until you send an actual invitation. Many probably won't even know until much closer to the date.

ftrmrsweatherdon

Oh I know. I'm not looking for a rsvp. 

I guess I just though I'd hear from people letting us know they received it. Thats all.

achiduck

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[QUOTE]Oh I know. I'm not looking for a rsvp.  <strong>I guess I just though I'd hear from people letting us know they received it. Thats all.
</strong>Posted by ftrmrsweatherdon[/QUOTE]

Some probably will, some won't. When did you mail them? It took longer for some of our loal invitations to arrive than it did for our international ones.

CALEO

I never respond to save the dates.  It wouldn't occur to me!

You're making me feel like I'm so far behind haha

My mom and I are looking at the venue mon and if we like it, we'll hold a date in september (there are two open) and have fiance and his mom check it out - if they like it, we'll book and I can actually start all this planning stuff!

When do save the dates normally go out?  6 mo?

cwaggoner07

I got a few texts from friends, but we mostly got no responses.

ftrmrsweatherdon

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[QUOTE]I never respond to save the dates.  It wouldn't occur to me! You're making me feel like I'm so far behind haha My mom and I are looking at the venue mon and if we like it, we'll hold a date in september (there are two open) and have fiance and his mom check it out - if they like it, we'll book and I can actually start all this planning stuff! When do save the dates normally go out?  6 mo?
Posted by CALEO[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>We were definitely on the ball. We booked things asap when we got engaged in March. However in my city things book up so fast. We were visiting a venue in April, for our September 2013 wedding and the coordinator called into her assistant to hold the date for us, and when she did, her assistant informed her it was already booked. That is when I knew we needed to book as soon as we found something cuz I didn't want to have to settle.</div><div>
</div><div>I booked our photographer at the same time. When we met with him he showed us his calendar and it was already booked up full for next august and he was starting to book into September. We snagged him as soon as we could as well.</div><div>
</div><div>The industry here is madness. I was surprised. Hopefully things are better where you are and you still able to get everything you want.</div><div>
</div><div>I emailed a DJ on the weekend and he too is already booked for our date. Its jsut crazy!</div>

QueerFemme

I got maybe 5-10 responses from our STDs. Mostly from close friends/family.  Otherwise, people just mentioned it the next time we saw them. 

drandreasalazar

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[QUOTE]I'm just wondering if people got any responses from their save the dates. We sent our out last week. (A little early, but we wanted to do it before people started thinking about christmas, and we wanted to give some people enough notice, as theres some BIG travellers in our group, so we wanted to make sure no one was planning any vacations if they'd like to attend the wedding.) Anyway, I'm surprised I havent' heard any response. I'm not sure what I was expecting. Maybe a quick email or text or msg, saying "Hey we got the STD! Can't Wait" or something to that affect. However only a hand full of people have even let us know they recieved it, and most of them are the actual wedding party (and my mom). Am I weird for expecting some sort of response or what? I know if I recieved a STD I've be letting that person/couple know that I can't wait!
Posted by ftrmrsweatherdon[/QUOTE]

I believe our weddings are about same  distance away and I sent my save dates 2.5 weeks ago.. 32 of them.  All of my family members sent a quick note about it and several of my and my fiances friends said something about it but not everyone.  I see it this way,.... people that are planning on coming are more apt to send a quick comment about it but the people that are still thinking about it or are not planning on coming are going to be very quiet about the STD.  They wont say "date saved" when they are still trying to decide and theres a high chance they think they wont come. 

Avion22

I don't usually respond to Save-the-Dates.  If I'm really close with the bride or groom, I might mention it the next time I see them ("We got the save-the-date, how cute!").

We got a few similar responses when ours were sent out, and it was nice to know that they had started arriving (my SIL was kind enough to address them and mail them for us as we live abroad), but otherwise I didn't expect a response.

travelerkris

Same as PP - I was more freaked out that some of our international guests responded to our Save-the-Dates with notes that they couldn't come, since the STD wasn't an invitation.  We included a note with our invitations to them saying that we know they'd indicated their unavailability earlier, but that if things had changed, we'd still love to have them at the wedding.

It never occurred to me to respond to a save-the-date, other than to put the date in my calendar.  Since so many of us don't respond to them at all, I wouldn't take it personally.