people inviting themselves...

CL1322

Okay so here's the deal...we sent out save-the-date cards in February & our wedding is in August. I am getting e-mails from people who are not on the guest list, and didn't receive a save-the-date card, double-checking with me what day & time the wedding is because "they won't be missing it." Mind you, I don't have these people in my address book, never requested an address from them, nor have I even sent out invitations!!!! My fiance and I were not planning on inviting them, we both have very large families & a large group of close friends. I am thinking these people might have heard we were getting married by word of mouth, and are assuming they are getting an invitation. please help!!! I don't want to sound like a prude, but we simply cannot afford to add anyone else to our guest list, especially when they are not family/close friends!!!!

Kristin&eric

I have been telling people that it is just going to be close friends and family. I am in the same boat as you we have a large family. I am sure they will understand. Tell them when you are getting married. but that it is just going to be close friends ang family

Midgetth

Don't worry I had this same problem a few months ago. All you simply do is just IGNORE them. If they call you & they bring it up change the topic or say "Oh well it's only family" I ignored the people who were bringing it up or changed the subject & they eventually got the hint.

futurepivko

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_people-inviting-themselves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:030ebab1-792b-4ac8-aff3-8f5474e3847dPost:022e699b-8f68-4c67-9391-da75dbdfda37">Re: people inviting themselves...</a>:
[QUOTE]I have been telling people that it is just going to be close friends and family. I am in the same boat as you we have a large family. I am sure they will understand. Tell them when you are getting married. but that it is just going to be close friends ang family
Posted by Kristin&eric[/QUOTE]


exactly what i was going to post :)

unplainjane

i find it so strange how people assume they are invited. all you can do is tell them what PP said. it's only close family and friends. you're not being a prude at all. it's your wedding and you choose who comes.

[Deleted User]

Tell them you cannot add any more people to the list, your list is already set. And leave it at that. If they press further, tell them its just family and friends or you don't have the room and money to host anymore than what you invited.

jwang517

this happens to me too! people have been self-inviting since the day we changed our fb status that we were engaged... yes... fb status. i just ignore them when they email me or leave stupid posts about "am i invited?" or asking about detials like where and when. u might think i talk about the upcoming wedding on fb a lot? no,  im not those girls who update wedding planning online. all it says is im engaged to my fiance. i know eventually the ignoring those people won't work, so i'd probably just tell them that we're having limited space and it's only for family and very small number of friends.

kristi-ji

oh the pain...I know exactly what you are going through. In large families work of mouth is...well...painful. I simply told anyone who asked me that the wedding was for immediate family and we'll be having a bit of a "celebration" back in ohio after the wedding. I also spread this message to my father, mother, and grandparents who were doing most of the "my daughter is getting married!Here's the date, time, and location of her wedding..." talk at all familiy functions and reunions.