Question?!?!

KoriMarie062213

When making your guest list should u include ppls  bf/gf...even tho i have never meet there bf/gf?!?! i have a few cousins and so does he that are dating but never meet them!?!?! another thing is my friends that are single should i count one extra guest for them??? so they dont come alone?!?! i know some of u may think this is a dumb question but im just trying to get my number of guest as close as possible!!! Thanks!!!

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If they are in relationships, you should invite them. I gave everyone a plus one.

emarston1

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[QUOTE]If they are in relationships, you should invite them. I gave everyone a plus one.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
Us too.  Social units cannot be split up even if you don't know the other person.

mlynn1223

We have some of the same problems.  I added "and guest" in case they are not with their current significant other at the time of the wedding.  It is my opinion that if there is room they should be allowed to bring someone if they so desire.  However, putting names on it may cause problems if they do break up prior to the wedding.  If someone is single, and again, there is room, they too should be allowed to bring someone.  Hope this helps!  

Chobot

I invited all the couples and only let the bridal/groom party to bring dates if they are single.

Grits8812

As others have said, if they have a significant other, they are invited even if you don't know them.

You have over a year to figure things out.  Don't worry about it now.

SomethingBlue01

It depends on your budget, and how much room you have. I've been to a wedding where my fiance (he was my boyfriend at the time), wasn't invited, and I didn't mind because I knew they were under a tight budget. I'm in the process of making my guest list now, and we decided to set a few rules as far as inviting guests of guests. 

-Distant cousins who we're not close with, and we've never met their significant other's only get a +1 if they're engaged.

-We're inviting close friends and family to bring a guest only if we've met them and we know they're serious (i.e.- his 16 year old cousin has had a boyfriend for a month and that boyfriend isn't invited). 

-Random friends (for example, my childhood friend from camp) who will not know anyone else there will be invited with a plus one. 

Hope this helps, good luck!

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[QUOTE]It depends on your budget, and how much room you have. I've been to a wedding where my fiance (he was my boyfriend at the time), wasn't invited, and I didn't mind because I knew they were under a tight budget. I'm in the process of making my guest list now, and we decided to set a few rules as far as inviting guests of guests.  <strong>-Distant cousins who we're not close with, and we've never met their significant other's only get a +1 if they're engaged.</strong> -We're inviting close friends and family to bring a guest only if we've met them and we know they're serious (i.e.- his 16 year old cousin has had a boyfriend for a month and that boyfriend isn't invited).  -Random friends (for example, my childhood friend from camp) who will not know anyone else there will be invited with a plus one.  Hope this helps, good luck!
Posted by SomethingBlue01[/QUOTE]

This is really rude. If they're 18+ and dating someone, it's not up to you to judge the seriousness of the relationship. They should be invited as a couple.

Viczaesar

It would be easier to understand you if you used less punctuation and more capitals and complete words.  That was painful to read.  Based on what I think you are asking, yes, you have to invite people's significant others, whether or not you have met them.

SomethingBlue01

Wow, you must all have tons of money to spend on your wedding if you're inviting everyone with a guest. The point was that weddings are expensive and I'm not going to pay for everyone to bring a date, who may or may not even be important to them. I don't want strangers at my wedding who I may never see again. 

Princess0214

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[QUOTE]Wow, you must all have tons of money to spend on your wedding if you're inviting everyone with a guest. The point was that weddings are expensive and I'm not going to pay for everyone to bring a date, who may or may not even be important to them. I don't want strangers at my wedding who I may never see again. 
Posted by SomethingBlue01[/QUOTE]


I totally get it. It's hard to add a plus one if you have to possibly exclude family members. I believe the knot has a great article about making a guest list. Check it out it addresses your issue. Good luck.

Hilraythebride

I think it depends on one of two things, how much do you want this person to come, and how long have they been together.

The first one is obvious, if you really want someone to come they are way more likely to come if you invite their bf or gf, if you are doing it as just a formality (family, co workers friends from forever ago) than I would just invite them and have them make their own decision.

Number two is where it can get really hairy, if you want to be most fair, I would say only invite them if they are engaged or married.  But then you always have those who have been together for years and just haven't popped the question.  If they are an enstablished couple you should invite thir bf or gf.  If they are family, they will most likely come without the plus one but friends may not.  

If you find your guest list getting too big because of plus ones you will have to trim it down or use one of the rules mentioned above, if people ask about bringing their bf or gf inform them that you just don't have the budget to invite their bf or gf, they should understand.  

Hilraythebride

Oh, one more thing, think about the person you may be inviting with the plus one, has that person had multiple relationships in the past few months that have gone sour in days or weeks, if so it is smart not to invite them to avoid wasting money and a blow up!