Destination Wedding? Help!

Kim1467

So, my fiance and I are thinking about just going on vacation and get married there by ourselves. I am definitely all for this idea, but at the same time, I'm not too sure how I feel about not having my Dad at my wedding. We haven't had the best relationship since my Mom passed away 3 years ago, but he's still my Dad. Opinions on this?

laurenclaire1386

Well, only you know how you're going to feel about not having your dad there. I don't think anyone will be able to tell you whether or not that's a good idea. That said, do you have any idea how your dad would feel if you got married without inviting him? Take that into consideration too. 

Personally, I couldn't do it. But I also have an abnormally close relationship wtih my immediate family. I could never do something as big as getting married without them there. 

redheadfsu

We had a private DW. I loved it. My parents loved the idea, his parents took a little to get used to it. Once everyone realized it was what WE really wanted, they got it. We had a wedding blog, video and tons of pictures.

redheadfsu

Eloping is when it is a secret. She is talking about a private DW. I would recommend telling* everyone before. If we kept it a secret, people would have been pissed.

MyNameIsNot

Only you know how you and your dad are going to feel after the fact.  My H wanted to do the same thing, but personally, I would have regretted getting married without my parents.  But, that's my relationship with my parents.  

I agree with PP that you should run the idea by your dad and see how he reacts, because his opinion seems to be important to you.  

If you decide that having parents there is important but that you still want to go with the same idea, you could always just invite parents.  

Kim1467

I defintely am going to tell him before we go, I just have to figure out how I feel about not having him there.

Kim1467

And I wouldn't even know where to start to tell him! I just didn't think figuring all this out would be this hard, thanks for the posts!