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mothers!!!

Anybody any advice on dealing with mothers? Specifically ones with opinions on everything and everything about the wedding?

Re: mothers!!!

  • Sadly, gagging them and locking them in a closet until the wedding is over, is not a viable option.
  • Is she paying for anything?
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  • I would go for the deer in the headlights look when she asks what you are doing.  Don't tell her stuff and then she can't give you her imput unless is something you really want her imput on. or...Give her something that she can be in control of or feel in control of. That could keep her busy.  or...Remember she is mom and let her know that her opinion is important but you are going another way.  Remind her that she got to do things her way for her wedding and you want to make this have special meaning for you and your FI. Good luck and hopefully she will relax.
  • explain to her that styles and trends are very different from when she got married. 
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    Fred Rogers
  • You may also want to mention that etiquette is different too, just to minimize mis-communication. For example, my grandma was asking who I was *thinking* about having stand up for me as BMs. She freaked out when I named 4 people, because she thought that brides were 100% responsible for the BMs attire.
  • Thanks girls for all your replies... We are paying for EVERYTHING by ourselves - luckily we are doing it small so we can afford it!!! I have come to learn that information is ammunition.....
  • I agree with not telling anything, especially since she's not paying! My FMIL sent me names of people she wanted us to invite to the wedding, even my FI didn't want most of them there, but she kept pushing. Now all we're asking her for are addresses of people we can't find on our own. I don't know about anybody else, but anyone, not just moms, that is too opinionated causes too much stress, so even though I send them nice emails about plans, I tell them "this is what we're doing" instead of "what do you think."
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