Friend's mom has cancer, appropriate to send flowers?

msgirl2010

The mother of one of my closest friend's was diagnosed with colon cancer today.  My friend just called to tell me (we have been waiting to hear).  I have only met the mother twice.What is appropriate in this situation?  Is it okay to send my friend flowers?  Should I wait?  Is there a flower (someone mentioned "funeral flowers") that I should NOT be sending?Should I be sending the mother flowers?  This seems odd, maybe intrusive (since she probably doesn't know that I know).Please advise!  They are catholic.  Thanks!

Leah&Christian09

When my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer a few years ago, a friend sent me a blue cancer ribbon (royal blue is for colon). She made a donation and I still have the ribbon pin attached to my purse. There really isn't much that you can say or do to make it better. If you are religious, you can remind them that they are in your prayers. If the friend is nearby, you can offer to handle any tasks for her while she's taking care of her mother: watch her pet, run errands, make a meal, etc.

MLC613

Could you possibly do a nice card just let the family know you're thinking of them. Maybe you could include a gift certificate to Pizza Hut or some where that delivers or is quick (maybe Applebee's or Chili's with their car side to go..) That way you're letting them know you're thinking of them, and you're making life just a little easier for them even for one night. Since you've only met the Mother twice I understand why you'd feel a little weird sending flowers, but you could just send flowers to ________ (your friend) and Family and just put on the card you're thinking of them!!Good luck, I'm sorry to hear about this. It's a hard thing to go through, your friend is lucky she has you!!

ffmaid

I would just be an ear for her. the best thing is to be a friend. If local take her out for coffee or have her over for some wine and let her talk . If you send flowers DO NOT send lilies as those are funerals Mainly what she probably needs is for you to listen and go based on what she says

msgirl2010

Thanks guys, I appreciate the help.  Okay, no lilies, got it!