Pearls of wisdom to share...

dahian

Good morning my fellow knotties! Pondering over all of knowledge and experiences obtained since getting engaged and during the process of planning our wedding, got me thinking that there was a whole world entirely unknown to me before that beautiful evening when my true love asked me to be his wife. And I bet that I’m not the only one, so, I thought it would be lovely to have you ladies share your pearls of wisdom with me and the rest of the knotties that read this post. Let me help you get started: what have you learned since getting engaged? Of your partner? Your relationship? What has been the hardest lesson you have had to learn? Your feel of the general public’s conception of a wedding? A pleasant surprise that you never expected? What has disappointed you? What has frustrated you? What has made you, your partner or the relationship stronger? What or who has made you contemplate eloping? –lol As you can see, the list can go on and on…so, go ahead, share your experiences and sentiments that getting engaged (or married, for those who have already taken the plunge) have exposed you to. I can’t wait to read all of your responses and gain wisdom from all of them! Happy typing!

kschwedic

Since getting engaged and starting the planning, I'm discovering just how picky and bratty I can truly be--and that is not a pleasant discovery! I have to remind myself to listen to FI's opinion, even if it doesn't appeal to me, and to consider it because, to be honest, he usually has the better idea about things.  But I am extremely picky and it's made some things a little difficult.  On that note, something I've discovered about my fiance (I already sort-of knew it) is that he is EXTREMELY patient.  I knew he was patient before, but this wedding is really showing it.  I know he'd love to just disappear until the day of because I can drive him insane, but he sticks by me! And all of this is making me discover that our relationship is definitely a strong one.  We are both young (21, 23), but at the same time, we are pretty mature and we know we're in this forever, not just until we get bored with each other and can easily divorce. A lot of the planning has frustrated me because of budget, disagreement on style, and constant nagging from parents.  I work with FI's mom and she's always in my office, asking me an abundance of wedding-related questions.  I've gotten so burnt out on the planning on more than one occasion and sometimes I just want to tell her to leave me alone.  So, on that note, I've realized that just a weekend of non-wedding activities can be a huge suprise--it takes away the stress and frustration and by Monday, I'm in full-planning mode again. I think about eloping every day.  I think it would have saved some stress (especially since I'm working, and attending school full time).  I never wanted a big wedding, and I told FI that at the beginning, but he said he didn't want me to look back and regret not having my big wedding like all other girls.  So, we went ahead with the big wedding planning and, now I want a small wedding on the beach lol.  I'll probably hate some details until the day of the wedding, but I know that the tiny little things don't matter--getting married to the man I love and will spend the rest of life with TRULY matters

stressfreeBride2be

I don't know if this is exactly what you're looking for, but the biggest (and best) thing I have learned, is just HOW MUCH my FI "has my back."  When everyone has become sooo pushy and opinionated, he has pulled me to the side, to make sure that everything that's going on it what I want and am ok with.  When I'm being put on the spot by his mother, he tells her that he and I will discuss the matter and get back to her at a later date.  He's 1000 times more supportive through this than I ever imagined!  Because of all the little stresses, we've decided to have a private ceremony with just our parent's and grandparents.