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Update on estranged father: Omfg!!

I wrote on here before how my father relapsed into his alcoholism and drug addiction. Because of this and his refusal to take responsibility for his actions my family cut him off. It's been over and year and he tries about once every few months to reach out to us, particularly me with drunken voice messages.My sister's husband, unfortunately, works with him and is subjected to his weird and erratic behavior on a daily basis. BIL just gave me an update about what has happened recently.

A new girl started working at the company this past summer and she made the mistake of starting a conversation with my father who began following her around everyday. During one of their conversations she mentioned that she played on a softball team. The next day at practice my father was in the stands watching her. He got her number and began calling and texting her multiple times a day. Apparently the girl confronted my father and told him to leave her alone, that she needed space and would file a complaint against him to HR if he didn't stop. 

This is where it gets stranger. Despite my BIL choosing to talk to my father about nothing but work my father cried to him, at work, about the girl and how much he loves her and wants to be more than friends.What apparently is the creepiest part is that she resembles me in age, looks, and body type. When my father's not crying over this girl he's lamenting about me. I honestly don't know if that means anything but if it is what I think it is I am officially creeped out.

I told BIL that he should report him to HR to get him off the girl's back. He said that he tried but they told him unless she files a complaint herself or they catch him in the act there's nothing they will do.

I don't get why this girl does not just go to HR and get him off her back. Until she reports him, he's going to continue harassing her. Maybe it's because he's worked for the company for over 20 years that they aren't jumping on this like I think they should but she's an adult and needs to handle this.

Re: Update on estranged father: Omfg!!

  • If I were your BIL, I would consider approaching the girl and encouraging her to file a formal complaint. She probably thinks she is being kind by not getting your dad in trouble, and doesn't realize how far from sane he truly is right now.
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  • I'm right there with you. I know BIL has encouraged her to speak up but there's not much else he can do. It's a really sad situation and my heart goes out to this girl. I'm staying as far away from him as possible.
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