Save the Date

sakramer

Is it ok to ask your guest to respond to your save the date on whether they plan to attend your destination wedding?

courtski2004

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_save-the-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:26554a86-8397-4cad-a340-ef42e162f48ePost:45110d21-5294-40fe-8e4b-821dc19c75d6">Save the Date</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it ok to ask your guest to respond to your save the date on whether they plan to attend your destination wedding?
Posted by sakramer[/QUOTE]

<div>I've never heard of an RSVP included with a save the date. Why not just set an earlier RSVP date when you send your invites? </div>

misssunshine17

I think you can bring it up on conversation if you see them, but I don't think you can do an RSVP. But really, DW people will know months in advance, not weeks like local weddings. 

JoanE2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_save-the-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:26554a86-8397-4cad-a340-ef42e162f48ePost:45110d21-5294-40fe-8e4b-821dc19c75d6">Save the Date</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it ok to ask your guest to respond to your save the date on whether they plan to attend your destination wedding?
Posted by sakramer[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No.  That's what the formal invitation is for.  Why do you need to know now?

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sakramer

Since we are having a detination wedding, I thought it would be nice if we could get a more accurate count for planning purposes.  n Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_save-the-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:26554a86-8397-4cad-a340-ef42e162f48ePost:08c2d33f-b30f-4e25-b0ef-db798664d020">Re: Save the Date</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Save the Date : No.  That's what the formal invitation is for.  Why do you need to know now?
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

JoanE2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_save-the-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:26554a86-8397-4cad-a340-ef42e162f48ePost:b46c6046-7d08-4087-816e-cef48cb0fd20">Re: Save the Date</a>:
[QUOTE]Since we are having a detination wedding, I thought it would be nice if we could get a more accurate count for planning purposes.  n Response to Re: Save the Date :
Posted by sakramer[/QUOTE]

A destination wedding works pretty much the same way as any other wedding, it's just at a different location.  The venue there shouldn't have to know how many guests until 1-2 weeks before the wedding date. 

Asking someone if they're coming when you send out the STDs 8 months or however long before the wedding is crazy.  I know it's a destination, but people may not know for sure until a few months before.