MIL is great. Amazing. I'm very excited to be a part of her family. Fiances step-father is a different story. I've always been told that he has an evil side, not to trust him, etc. but I've always just gave him the benefit of the doubt and saw nothing but him treating my fiance and MIL great. Until yesterday, he stuck his nose somewhere it didn't belong and was very rude to me. I just threw my fiance a surprise for his bday and went out of my way to invite his step-brother. Several calls and texts and emails unanswered. He originally told me he'd be attending and then it was difficult to get ahold of him. I talked to finaces mom about it and she just said that he is always short with people like that, so I expected to see him at the bday party. Well, not only did he not show, but he told his dad (fiances step dad) that I pretty much "unwelcomed" him and didn't include him in any of it. It completely shocked me, I had no idea where it was coming from. Fiances step-dads comments were such as "With you being an adult, if I were in your shoes, if I wanted to be a part of this family, I would have done things differently, you did a very, very poor job planning this in consideration to (my fiances) family." He never asked for my side of the story, he never gave me the benefit of the doubt, nothing- just attacked me. In the end, he apologized for "sticking his nose in business that wasn't his," but never for the way he handled it or approached me about it. Fiance stood up for me and told me "now you see the side of him I've always told you about." I went from being completely open, trusting, and excited to be a part of that family, to not trusting and putting my wall all the way up in the matter of one day. I'm concerned about his "involvement/opinions/attacks" about all of our future decisions (i.e. telling us how to raise our children). Anyone else in a similar situation? Or been through it? IDK what to do! I love his mom, but she stands next to his step-dad and allows it. Sorry so long, complicated story. And advice is much appreciated!
