Invitation Reading?

Emilykaye8605

I was unaware when picking the date for our wedding it was my mother in-laws wedding date. My fiance's father pasted away 12 years ago. Fiance was very happy to have it on that date, but I'm still a little hesitant on the date. I was also wondering if I could have something written on our invitations with something being said about that also being the date his parents wedding date. For insistence "This day was also shared by two very in-love people 37 years ago" I don't know?

cjajtg

I would talk to your soon-to-be mother-in-law about it.  Draft something up that both you and your fiance like and just ask her if it would be okay.  You don't want to start the rest of your life with your mother-in-law being upset that you brought up her pain.  But I wouldn't fret over it.  Just make a small and polite mintion of it (if she is okay with it).  Good Luck!

HobokensFury

This does not belong on the invite.  Talk to FMIL before making any mention of it because it may upset her.

StephJean83

As PPs have said to not put it on the invite. If you want to make mention of it, ask your FMIL to see if she is ok with you saying something and either have the DJ say something or put a little note in the programs.

FWIW, my FH and I picked our date because it is my grandparent's anniversary. They both passed away when I was in college but I asked the few aunts and uncles and my mom how they felt about me mentioning at the wedding. All thought it would be very nice to make mention of it.

Jager1219

I agree with everyone about leaving it off the invites.  You could put a "in memorium" in your ceremony program.  You also might be able to incorporate something into the ceremony about remember those who aren't with us today.

erinlin25

Definitely talk to FMIL and make sure its ok.  We almost got married on my parents 40th wedding anniversary and they were all for it (decided against it since it was memorial day weekend).  But anyhoo, if it will make her sad considering she no longer has her husband it might be hard.  FI probably would not have a clue what she is really feeling so have a talk or at least have your FI run it by her