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NWR- Vent

I'll start off by saying I love my FI and all of his friends, but...

My FI's friend has been having car problems and every once in a while he stays over and I drive him to work since it's on my way. He starts a half hour before me so I have to get up earlier (not the end of the world, I know). He stayed over Monday night (we invited him because he's been going through a hard breakup and it was no big deal). Last night I get home from work and I'm chatting with my FI about dinner and who knocks on our door but him. He got dropped off and didn't tell us he was coming over. He initially asked my FI if he wanted to hang out for a bit. We assumed he had a ride home, apparently he did but then somehow he didn't. So basically he invited himself over to sleep over and have me give him a ride to work in the morning, can you say rude? I would have done it, but don't expect it. Ask and you shall receive. I'm just so annoyed.

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    I would be annoyed, too. I hate when people come over unexpectedly. And to then need a ride on top of it?  That's just inconvenient for you. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    Lia, that's exactly what I'll do next time. Especially if he shows up tomorrow night.

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    If you keep letting him behave this way why would he stop?    I would have a heart to heart with FI.   Have him tell the friend you don't mind helping out from time to time, but this is boarder lining on taking advantage of your generosity.     The friend might be so wrapped up in his own problems he might not even realize what he is doing.

    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    Ironically my FI just said to me the other day "I'm too nice aren't I?". Yes dear, sometimes you are.
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    Jessa617 Jessa617 member
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    edited February 2013
    Oh my god! I got home from work to change into my gym clothes and who knocks once and walks right in? Really?! He said "I would have called but I have no phone". This kid needs a serious lesson in etiquette. Fortunately he has his car back so no slumber parties tonight!
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