Ladies,
I need a non-biased opinion on this.
I am in the military and have been training for the last several years. My time is limited, I see my family very little, my fiancee is deploying, and I am stretched thin by my job and my personal life. My best friend asked me to be her MOH a year ago and I agreed, although I told her thaat since she was getting married so far away I would not be able to help as much as I'd like. She said it was fine.
Fast forward to today, her wedding is two weeks away. Her wedding is on a Sunday, and I also made a last minute commitment to spend time with my grandfather on Saturday. He is 90, pretty much on his last leg of life. I told him I would take him to see a football game for his favorite team, knowing the possibiilty that I may never get the chance to do that again. I informed my friend, the bride, that I would not be able to make it to her rehearsal dinner because of it. However I would fly out very early the next day to be there in time to get her ready for her wedding.
I received a text saying that she no longer wanted me as a maid of honor, because she did not "have the energy" to "inform her maid of honor of what was going on" because I could not make it to her rehearsal dinner. We ended up yelling on the phone, and she ended up hanging up on me.
Is it unfair of me to not have been at her rehearsal dinner? Right now with my work schedule in the military I have very little time to actually leave and be there for family and friends. Is she being unfair firing me as maid of honor, and is our friendship salvagable?