Thoughts on invitation FI received today

crystaldbl

First off the invitation states that they will be serving soda and 1 kind of beer and that if you would like to bring your own alcohol you are permitted to do so. I have never seen something like that on an invitation. The invite was only addressed to FI. I asked him if he saw the invite for the wedding. He said yes and asked if we are going. I told him that I wasn't invited and now he wants to call and find out what the deal is. I told him no. What do you all think? Should I let him call?

lyndausvi

How good of friends is he with the couple?        

If I was good friends with the couple or close family I would call and just ask. But our good friends/family roll like that.     If I'm only aquaintences or distant family, then I would not call and ask..

crystaldbl

In Response to Re:Thoughts on invitation FI received today:[QUOTE]Yes, let him call.nbsp; I hope the couple who issued that invitation are embarrassed, but they are probably beyond hope if they are having a BYOB reception. Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]


They were also nice enough to include their honeymoon registry info.

misssunshine17

Uhg. I'd just decline. Sounds like it's going to be a shitshow. 

crystaldbl

In Response to Re:Thoughts on invitation FI received today:[QUOTE]How good of friends is he with the couple?nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;nbsp; Ifnbsp;I wasnbsp;good friends with the couple or close familynbsp;I would call and just
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He doesn't know the wife all that well but he's known the guy for about 15 years. I've never met her and have known him for about 10 years.

AddieCake

He should call and ask. They clearly don't know proper etiquette and it was probably just a mistake.

artbyallie

Does he want to go to this wedding? Because seriously, if he doesn't care, I wouldn't go. Or send a gift of any kind, for that matter.

PreDempsey

Decline because it'll be a sh!tshow OR go and spectate the circus in all of it's potential people watching goodness?  I'm a sucker for a good train wreck.

Avion22

If you and the bride haven't even met each other, it's possible that she doesn't know you exist (or the groom didn't know to mention you when making the guest list).  Have your fiance call.  That is, if you want to attend in the first place....

SJM7538

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_thoughts-on-invitation-fi-received-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:44c5d33e-a058-4e4f-bd1d-5a723079ee4ePost:dbf0a803-53d4-40f9-b377-abc33f9df911">Re: Thoughts on invitation FI received today</a>:
[QUOTE]How good of friends is he with the couple?         If I was good friends with the couple or close family I would call and just ask. But our good friends/family roll like that.     If <strong>I'm only aquaintences or distant family, then I would not call and ask..
</strong>Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Ditto this. Last year I got an invitation to my cousins wedding and it was only addressed to me. I'm not super close with my cousin and never met the bride. But....Fiance and I lived together and I just assumed it was an oversight because they had never met him. I didn't want to bother the bride bc I figured she was super busy planning and with life. So I just sent my aunt a private message on FB and it turns out it was a mistake.

emeejeeayen

If it turns out you're invited, and you end up going, I highly recommend you bring booze. You'll likely need it. I would not contribute to the honeymoon fund, though. Ridiculous.