Are you having the wedding of your dreams?

wiwicaty

When I was little I dreamt of getting married in a castles in the north of France, wearing a Scarlett O'Hara gown, surrounded by everyone and their cousin . Instead, it's going to be something surprisingly, entirely different. I love EVERY detail of my wedding, (ok, being able to afford a more glamorous event would have been nice)... I'm just surprised that it turned out to be so different. 

The most important thing is the same... marrying the man of my dreams, lol.

Anyone else feels the same way?

marissa_claire

This shouldn't be all that surprising.  You had that dream when you were little, and now you're a grown woman.  

ichellemay1

I am definitely having it this time.  My 1st wedding was all about what everyone else wanted.  This wedding is what FI and I want and that we'll be married.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I'd thought about my wedding ever since I went to my first wedding, but my opinions changed from year to year.  Sometimes I'd even go to a wedding where they were using colors I wanted, but then I decided against it because I didn't like how it looked.

Looking back on our wedding now I wouldn't change a thing.  Our flowers were wrong when they came - but they were gorgeous.  I was nervous about things matching or going together, but they looked great.  I had wanted a white wedding and an hour before the ceremony - snow started to fall.  Everything just rocked.  I am not sure I could have dreamed a better day.

NillaWafer10

I don't ever remember playing wedding or dreaming about my wedding.  Maybe I just didn't have a Ken doll...

Anywho, I definitely had the wedding of my dreams.  I had an amazing day, and I married my husband!

jmkes

I never dreamed of a big fancy wedding.  We did more than I ever thought we would.  I envisioned us on a beach making it short and sweet.  We had a nice wedding, by no means extravagant, but what I keep hearing from people was that they could tell how much H & I love each other and that it showed all day.  That is more important to me than anything!  We cut out a lot of things the wedding industry says you "have" to have.  But what we did have I worked my butt off for.  Our day was beautiful, people laughed and enjoyed it and I married my best friend.

megk8oz

Obviously, I married the perfect guy for me. Considering that most of us can agree we all dreamed about that particular detail, I don't think it really counts to say I got what I dreamed of there, lol.

I think the only thing big "difference" between what I always had wanted and what I actually had was I was married in the winter ... and because of that, I didn't get to have an outdoor ceremony or outdoor pictures. But fate kind of picked a day for us-and it did not pick a day during a warm weather season. I love my anniversary date, so I really don't mind.

The only other thing I ever really "dreamed" of besides an outdoor wedding was getting to wear a big, princess ball gown (Because, come on, when else do you get a chance to do that?) ... which I totally did. I didn't really think about what else was "important" to me until we actually started planning.

Amisslis

I am glad that I never fantasized about the wedding of my dreams when I was younger because, of course, one crucial element was missing--the actual, real-life man that I am marrying next week. Our wedding is a reflection of who we are as individuals and as a couple; it is surely entirely different from anything I would have wanted as a child. At the end of the day, I am marrying the man that I love. As long as our big day shows that, I will be happy.

bellebride116

Yeah I have to agree, I've never fantasized of a wedding when I was little. As soon as I met H I did tho, very strange LOL. But, yes, I consider the wedding I had my dream wedding. 

aerinpegadrak

I didn't start "dreaming" about a wedding until I got an engagement ring.  Even if someone has been thinking about it her whole life, I would hope that an adult woman would have a better idea of what to realistically expect out of a wedding than a child would.

AdeleDazeem

I ... umm ... dreamed of being driven around in a horse pulled carriage ::hides face::  But I was seven.  When I was ten, I think I wanted a trolley for the wedding party.

Then came high school/college where marriage was a four letter word uttered only by crazy adults.

In the past few years, as my fiance and I found ourselves more and more on the road to marriage, we discussed what kind of wedding we wanted.  I really hope I'm implementing it well.  He seems to think so.  We wanted private, destination location, simple, and largely planned by someone else.  So far, so good. 

flapper2011

I always imagined that I would have a small, simple wedding in someone's backyard. It looked like that's what I was going to have originally- my cousin offered her backyard, even though our wedding date is in November- but she backed out of the offer about a month ago. So now, I honestly don't know what kind of wedding I am going to have or where I'm even going to have it. But, it's still a year away, so there's still plenty of time... My dress is a lot "fancier" than I ever imagined wearing (I always assumed I would have a simple, plain white or ivory dress to go with the small, simple backyard wedding), but I lucked out and won a free wedding dress at a bridal show, so I was able to select a dress that would have otherwise been way out of my price range.
And honestly,  when I was younger I dreamed of marring Paul McCartney... which obviously is not happening. So in that perspective, no, it is not my "dream wedding". Would I trade the man I am marrying for Sir Paul... Probably not. ;-)

wiwicaty

@Joy- I think there was a carriage involved in my dreams as well :-)

I have been dreaming about my wedding very sweetly and certainly dreamt of marrying my FI everyday of our love story, regardless of the proposal. That's one more thing I love about it, the fact that another life's dream is coming true - always a wonderful feeling for me.

I don't think realistic ideas have anything to do with it. As a child I had the same ability to dream that I have now. Being a pragmatic adult doesn't make me any less of a dreamer. Matter of fact, I would still be having a wedding in that castle in France if that was still what I wanted. 

@flapper- congrats on winning your dress! this is awesome!

Mary Susan and Chris

I am having the wedding I have dreamed of since I was a little girl. My parents are seeing to it that FI and I have everything we want at the wedding. I am an only girl and "spoiled" I will admit. I am 38 and my parents have waited a long time to give me a wedding. I have always wanted it to be at the venue we are using, and I am using the colors I dreamed of and the flowers. I couldn't ask for anything more.

DaughterOfHelaman2709

I am marrying the man I love for time and all eternity.  When I am truly honest with myself, I know that everything else is just fluff.  It may or may not be my kind of fluff, but it's really not important.

DanielleZZ

I am definitely having the wedding of my dreams.  I have dreamed of my wedding day ever since I can remember, however in college I decided I wanted to elope so that I didn't have to deal with the fuss.  My parents (I am the only girl) wanted to give us a big wedding so in the end I am getting what I originally wanted. : )

ashleben

The only thing I ever dreamed about for my wedding when I was a little girl was that it would be outside.  Weather permitting this is exactly what is going to happen.  I upset a few people by not having a  church wedding, but outside is much more our style,  The only other thing was I thought green would be one of my colors but after not being able to find a green dress I could stand for bridesmaids or even seeing green accents that I liked green is totally out.  I also have picked out a dress that I never thought I would want.  I went into dress shopping saying no veil, no train, and nothing super girly.  My dress is covered in beading and lace, it has a train, and I'm wearing a veil.  Other than that I am creating the wedding of my dreams and am mostly supported in the decisions by family.  The best part is when I have upset others with my planning my fiance is the one telling me that it doesn't matter because we're the ones getting married and the day is about us not them, so there's no way it won't be my dream wedding when I get to marry a man who is always spportive, by my side, and my best friend.

pinkhorse

I am not. For a long time now I wanted to ride up on my horse, he is very beautiful, and white. He looks like a storybook horse. My fiance didn't like this idea, I think it is because he is jealouse of my horse. He won't let me.

wiwicaty

@pink - that's so sweet... sorry your FI won't let you know. Maybe you can have a TTD session on the horse after the wedding.

wiwicaty

...won't let you DO IT. sorry for the typo there

annagtz82

I know I'm getting the wedding I always wanted. My FI's ideas of the wedding were very different from what I wanted. He wanted a very small and intimate wedding with just our immediate family and some close friends and then a backyard bbq after wards, but I was not fond of that at all. So after many arguements he just gave in and let me have what I wanted. Invite all our close friends and family. A nice reception at a country club with a nice sit down dinner and dance the night away.  

Jenni83

My wedding was everything i had ever Dreamed & more.Aside from every detail being exactally how i wanted it it to be,i married & get to spend a lifetime with the love of my life.