a little frustrated...

racheloliviabrown

So my bridal shower is coming up in June, and it falls on the same day as my good friends boyfriend (soon to be fiance) 's birthday! When my cousin planned the shower I totally didn't put the two together.  When I talked to my friend about the shower she told me she isn't going to go because it's his birthday... I was a little hurt by this, because she is such a good friend of mine. I'm only having one bridal shower, he will have birthdays the rest of his life. Not only that, but why not celebrate it that night? Or that night before, which is a Friday? I don't know, she's a really good friend that I've known forever, and they've been together less than a year.

My question is, am i being to sensitive by being hurt by this? Am I being a bridezilla?? What should I do?? HELP!

ChristineNB

You can't hold it against her if she has other plans that day.  Obviously there is no one date that is perfect for every single guest of your shower.  I would just accept the fact that she can't come and move on.
Just wanted to add I saw you said they've been together less than a year.  Is it possible this is his first birthday that she is celebrating with him?  Maybe she has special plans for it then.  Either way, I would move on and honor how she wants to spend her day.

MyNameIsNot

It's an invitation, not a subpoena.  Not everyone is going to make it.  

You said he's soon to be her FI, so he and his birthdays are obviously important to her.  It's ok to be disappointed, but to expect her to choose your shower over his birthday is bratty and self centered.  Take a moment to be disappointed and then get over it.  

AmJam04

In my opinion, yeah. You shouldn't be upset at her for wanting to spend time with her future fiance for his birthday. Who are you to tell her that his birthday is less special/important than your bridal shower?? Honestly, your post makes you look like you have the maturity of a 16 year old. Get over it.  Be thankful that she'll be by your side on your BIG day.

racheloliviabrown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_a-little-frustrated?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:4d1ab034-8774-4143-9b9e-578819e4d154Post:c8f59a71-6aed-4068-8b81-7b91687cfb4a">Re: a little frustrated...</a>:
[QUOTE]IHonestly, your post makes you look like you have the maturity of a 16 year old. Get over it. 
Posted by AmJam04[/QUOTE]

wow, thanks so much for your kind words!!!

achiduck

It's probably a hard place to be in for your friend. They may have already made plans during the day, and while it would be nice to have her there she'll be at the wedding (I assume) which is the more important event. I would let this one go.