He's not walking me down the aisle....

BLESSME12

So...My father was not around for the entire 28 yrs of my life. We're really not that close now, but I love him dearly! He is invited, but how do I tell him that he will not be walking me? Any suggestions?

megk8oz

Don't bring it up at all. If he actually asks you, then you can tell him how you feel about ... but otherwise, just leave it alone. He'll most likely get the hint if you don't mention it to him.

garcias1

Yeah, I would say don't bring it up.  He may already realize that he will not be walking you down the aisle.  If you try to justify your feelings, it will probably only end up hurtful for him to hear.  If he asks, you can inform him.  Otherwise, just avoid the topic with him.

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Ditoo pp's. Just don't tell him or mention anything wedding around him. If he asks, tell him the truth of who is unless you are walking alone or with your FI.

mkrupar

Ditto PPs. Don't tell him he's not doing it. If he asks explain that you prefer to walk by yourself.

Kristin789

A man who was not around the entire 28 years of his daughter's life understands that he has missed much and that he must forego priviledges that would come with parenting.

futurepivko

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[QUOTE]Don't bring it up at all. If he actually asks you, then you can tell him how you feel about ... but otherwise, just leave it alone. He'll most likely get the hint if you don't mention it to him.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

exactly what i was going to say.

lindsaynewbride10

See I'm kind of in the same boat- I'm having my grandfather walk me. I posted the same question on TK boards and got some of the same responses you've gotten, basically not to say anything, and that he'll get the hint. But... what if he doesn't- what if he's expecting to, and on the day of the wedding he tries to come to the back of the church to walk me? And I haven't already made it clear to him that my grandfather is walking me?

I might be putting too much thought into it, but, just in case, wouldn't you want to be sure that this has been made clear so that there is no additional stress on your wedding day, esp right before you're getting ready to start your ceremony?!