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Co-workers? who to invite?

I'm a nurse and work with about 40 women and 1 or 2 men, all of which i really, really like. I'm friendly with every single one of them. Because of my budget, I simply can't invite all of them, but would like to invite the few that I'm closer with, but it's extremely awkward. People are constantly asking about wedding plans, and I try not to say much.  Some people have flat out asked me if they're going to be invited. The whole co-workers debacle has put a halt on my guest list. I'm having serious stress trying to figure out who to invite without hurting others feelings!

I toyed with the idea of not inviting any of them, to keep the peace, but a few of my co-workers actually set me up with my FI, and It's important to me that some of them are there. Any tips on how to make this as drama-free as possible? Thanks in advance!

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    You don't need to invite everyone if you cannot afford it. If you do invite some get their home address and send the invite directly to their home.

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    I work in a school of about 200 teachers, with about 40 that I talk to and am friendly with on a regular basis. I only invited the 5 I'm closest to which are the ones I sicialize with outside of school.
     
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_co-workers-who-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:684ee501-b92c-47f4-b41f-148303d03da7Post:0978f807-a928-4817-a25d-bb24ff867fb4">Re: Co-workers? who to invite?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I work in a school of about 200 teachers, with about 40 that I talk to and am friendly with on a regular basis. I only invited the 5 I'm closest to which are the ones I sicialize with outside of school.
    Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

    I also work in a school but my school is half the size as yours. LOL! There are only 7 classrooms so I see everyone on a daily basis but I'm not close with all of them. I do however have paras that I'm with everyday and became close with. Since I have a tight budget I decided not to invite anyone because of it being too awkward and I didn't feel like having everyone in my ace on why they weren't invited. If I did, I would invite 5 or 6 who I was close with.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_co-workers-who-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:684ee501-b92c-47f4-b41f-148303d03da7Post:0978f807-a928-4817-a25d-bb24ff867fb4">Re: Co-workers? who to invite?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I work in a school of about 200 teachers, with about 40 that I talk to and am friendly with on a regular basis. I only invited the 5 I'm closest to which are the ones I socialize with outside of school.
    Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

    I agree that you should only invite the people you see socially.
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    I have about 15 co-workers and I don't socialize with any of them outside of work (I'm a bit younger than a lot of the people I work with) so we aren't inviting any of them to the wedding.

    I agree with PPs, only invite those who you do socialize with outside of work.
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    If you didn't work there anymore, who would you still see on a regular basis? Those are the ones you could invite.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_co-workers-who-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:684ee501-b92c-47f4-b41f-148303d03da7Post:479b4232-1ea8-4728-9f32-e798bce6c23f">Re: Co-workers? who to invite?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Co-workers? who to invite? : I agree that you should only invite the people you see socially.
    Posted by JoshLovesJekka[/QUOTE]

    This. Are there any you see outside of work? Or you call/text them a lot more than others?
    There's 5 other daytime managers I work with. I only invited the one that I would hang out with outside of work and texted a lot. Everyone knew we were friends outside work so nobody thought anything of it.
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    You said "but a few of my co-workers actually set me up with my FI". This should be how you explain it to them. Tell people you originally were at a tight budget without inviting any coworkers at all and that it put a bit of a hardship on you to make room for the coworkers who actually set you two up. And that the fact they did was the reason you wanted them there. Let them know that you really struggled with the decision and that as you can afford it, you'd like to have a weekend where you have lunch just you, the fi, and them because you want them as a part of it.

    If they're really that close to you, they'll understand fully. And in the nursing profession, they'll understand tough finances. I had a few friends actually chip in with wedding costs so I could afford to invite them when they found out how hard of a time I was having.So it could work out another way.

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    FI and I have the same problem. We work together in a company of over 500 ppl. A lot of ppl think they are invited and our work threw us a huge bridal shower and 70 ppl attended.
    It's so tough. We decided to only invite the ones that we hang out with outside of work at happy hours and other functions. Now our list is about 18 + guests.
    I feel like I will offend someone and really don't want to deal with it :(
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