Long Distance:/

lynzandsean2012

My boyfriend and I are getting engaged this summer,he lives in Anchorage,Alaska and I live in Washington.Were plaaning to have our wedding here but the thing is that I want his love ones to be down here as well,but because of time and money sitations with them,then cant,what do I do!?

AudgiePodge

Take the wedding to them if you want them there badly, but they can't make it.

MelissaAnne88

If you had the wedding where he lives, would your family members not be able to make it? Is it possible to find something somewhere in the middle?

lynzandsean2012

Well the thing is,were both really young so budget is key

Grammar

You're not even engaged yet. Just calm down.

arwo

Please Grammar don't hurt 'em.

edaviso

Worry about it when you're actually engaged. How young exactly are you? Not trying to be mean, but if you can't afford a wedding, do you really think you can afford to start a great life together just yet?

blahblah85

Just a curious question....have you met your future fiance?

angie_7148

There is a difference between being on a tight budget and not being able to afford a wedding edaviso. 

Lynz, I have a long distance engagement and marriage for the early years. My FI is a medical school student and his schedule is very restricted. He is in the Navy which adds an additional complication. I am starting law school in the fall and due to timing we decided to marry this summer. If it wasnt for this summer, it wouldnt be for another 5 years or so. His family is spread out everywhere so it wasnt difficult to chose to have the wedding where I grew up. Just wait until you are engaged and your parents and his parents will help you choose the best location. Good luck!

edaviso

Yes, there is a difference.  And my husband and I were also long distance for quite some time because of the Army...so I get the not wanting to wait part. HOWEVER, I'm a firm believer that being financially stable is an important aspect before marriage, and that's not just an opinion since facts show money problems is one of the top reasons a marriage fails.  I'm simply suggesting that instead of busrting the budget to have both families there right now (which is obviously very important since she's posting about it before she is even engaged to the guy) maybe wait a little while so they don't have to empty the bank account to have a wedding right this instant. 

lynzandsean2012

Hi, it's lynzs bf. Yes we have meet, if we didn't we wouldnt be planning all of this out. And grammar, stop being a douche. If youre not gonna help us out then don't bother commenting at all. And for everybody else, thanks for the ideas and everything. I really appreciate it.