Yesterday I decided to call my FI's family to see how they were doing and wish them a Merry Christmas, as after all the relationship drama my FI and I have been through recently, I was not invited to their Christmas get-together. His aunt (who helped raise him when he was a kid) told me she was busy and would call me back. Well, today her husband returned my call, and ripped me a new a-hole. He just kept ranting about how pissed off he is over all this stuff, and had the gall to say "You made your bed, now you get to lay in it." I couldn't get a word in. I tried telling him that I realized I had a drinking problem and have been going to A.A., and the man yelled at me that "drinking is no excuse!!!"
Normally I get along great with my FI's uncle, and the fact that he felt the need to call me back and scream at me like I am a child when I was merely trying to wish them a happy holiday really, really upset me. One, what occured between me and my FI is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. The financial aspects, emotional aspects, etc.- ARE NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. IT DOES NOT CONCERN THEM. My FI and I are... well, we're still together. He knows I love him and am trying to get my sh*t together, and I know he loves me. The fact that I was not invited to the family Christmas was a huge slap in the face. As if I haven't been put through enough already, now they are kicking me out of their family- even though my FI and I are still together!!
I just feel like they are adding more bullshit on top of the bullshit I'm already dealing with. I don't really care if this ordeal stressed his aunt out. I'm sure it's stressed US out more than her!! She's not the one living through it. It's not like my parents are calling him up screaming at him. I just feel like... well, what the f**k?? I can understand they're concerned about their nephews welfare, but it seems like they are more concerned over the fact that he'll have a charge on his record which "won't look good for getting jobs" than anything else. This isn't the first time this uncle has chewed me out over this crap, either- he and his wife have both already yelled at me over calling the cops last week, at the time that it happened. They never once even asked if I was ok, or anything. I also know that about 11 years ago these same people had my FI arrested for being under the influence, so I don't know why it's so horrible that I called the police during a goddamn fight. I feel like his entire family have shifted the blame on me, even though I didn't press charges.
I feel like I'm losing so much. I got along great with FI's family, but now it appears that they hate me. Even if my FI and I DO work this crap out (we've talked about couple's counseling and for the time being we are being civil to one another), now things are going to be weird with his family. I do not think I will ever be comfortable with them again, not after what has been said. I don't know how to deal with his family now. I don't know if I can deal with his family now. Their attitude is not making anything easier.