Fiance's Family

brimcleod

My fiance has been very upset lately.

His family went across the country for the holidays. They left on December 15, I believe. His birthday was December 19, and Christmas was today (the 25th). 

Since they've been gone, he hasn't heard from them. His dad called him on the 18th, so we know they have cell service.

Nobody cared to call him and tell him Merry Christmas or Happy Birthday.

He's very upset about this. He's spent the entire holiday with me & my family, but he feels that his family doesn't care at all. He's very upset over this. I want to be able to cheer him  up. Is there anything I can do?

NcsuPsych

Honestly,
Just be there for them. They are probably very busy and haven't even realized that they forgot to call.
Im at my FI family for Christmas and probably New Years. I had to call my parents and family too. There's so much going on back home that they get very wrapped up in it. It wasn't that they were trying to be mean of neglectful, just busy.
I was just make sure 1st that they got to their destination ok, and then if he wants to call them, do it. If he's wanting to wait for them to call, let him wait.
Birthdays are one thing, but Christmas is a two way street, he could have easily called them too.

But I do agree, that would hurt my feelings a little too. We're all grown ups though so we should all be able to handle things like this. Give him a hug and kiss and keep him busy with your family

skippylouwho

Has he tried to call them? I don't mean this to sound rude but phones work both ways.

liz745

This doesnt mean that they dont care. My grandpa always mixes up birthdays and calls pretty much everyone on the wrong day, we just laugh about it. Why didnt he call THEM on Christmas?? This doesnt really sound like anything to freak out over. The holidays are a busy time and sometimes things just slip away from us. It doesnt mean his family doesnt care about him anymore.

I would say all you can do is reassure him that its not really that big of a deal. Suggest that he call his family? All you can do is be there fore him.

brimcleod

yeah. he had called them several times and had gotten no answer. he called several different family member's phones and no answer or call back.

he was worried more than anything.





they called. last night. at 2am.

rodeo417

Just be there for him. In fact make him a candle lit dinner just for the two of you.. And then call his family (without him knowing)n and plan something for when they get back. A surprise belated birthday dinner???