NYT: marriage that broke up two marriages feature, thoughts?

sister2groom

I know this is kind of old, but have you all seen this?

Basically the NYT Vows section featured the wedding of a couple that met and fell in love while they were both married to and had kids with other people. They say there was no physical affair before the told thei respective spouses.

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/19/fashion/weddings/19vows.html?_r=1&adxnnl=1&ref=weddings&adxnnlx=1292955898-Kop4dwlujCwPG45xwO6t3w

NillaWafer10

I feel awful for their spouses and kids.  The whole thing sounds incredibly selfish to me.

waltzingmatilda13

The Times shouldn't have printed the story. It's not a love story, it's a story of 2 failed marriages and how they broke them up to start a new one. It's awful and I feel so bad for the children involved.

sister2groom

Regardless of whether you agree with what the couple (I certainly don't), I think it was tasteless of the NYT to run it. It's different than, say, reporting on Gov. Sanford's affair and resulting abuse of state funds, because that's news. I don't know how the NYT picks which weddings will be run, but this couple's not THAT renowned that their wedding should certainly be allowed in the NYT.

garcias1

I couldn't read the article, because it said I had to sign in (I don't have a NYT account).  But they were talking about this on the Today Show this morning.  I didn't hear the whole story because I was on my way out the door, but it sounds like it's a crappy story.  It's weird to me that you could "fall in love" with someone else without cheating (by whatever definition they might have) on their current spouse.  I'm not saying they were having crazy sex, but how could they possibly have made that much of a connection without neglecting their current marriages.  At some point, they had to make a decision to compromise their current marriage on the off chance that the new relationship would develop into what they thought it would.  In other words, they were being dishonest with their spouses before they decided that they were "in love."

megk8oz

I kind of see both sides of it. Yes, it totally sucks for the spouses and the kids ... but if these 2 are really happy together, wouldn't life have just sucked so much more for everybody involved if they just kept quiet and stayed with their exes?

I just think that staying with somebody you don't love is way more unfair to that person than breaking their heart and in turn, giving them the freedom to find somebody else that actually does love them.

As for "falling in love" and "not physically cheating", I believe that's completely possible. Emotional affairs happen, it's actually not as uncommon as a lot of people would think.

However, I don't think this story was actually newsworthy, and I don't that this couple's dirty laundry needs to be in print like this.

flapper2011

I feel very bad for the former spouses and children involved. And I agree that this story is not really "newsworthy."