Want vs. Need

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Anyone else seem to have a big problem putting the things you want, but don't necessarily need, on the back-burner?  For example, I've been looking into getting a string duo for my ceremony (approximately one hour).  The string duo I want is $425 for just that one hour.  I don't NEED it, and I would be much better off putting that money towards something else, but I just really WANT it.I'm assuming this is a common problem, right?  I'm kind of bummin' now that I know I need to get realistic.

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It's tough to rationalize what's going to be worth the cost, but it sounds like you have a good grip on reality. I wanted a string section as well, but couldn't justify the money. I did *not* want canned DJ classical music. I compromised and hired an acoustic guitarist who was phenomenal and he played live music for the majority of the day until dancing got underway. You still have time... maybe some strings will come through for you. :-)

chica7484

Look into music programs at local colleges. Usually music majors will work for lower costs while they try to get into their careers. You could offer $ and positive references after a job well done. Contact a director of the program.

Gabs71109

This is a tricky one. I would be one for getting things you don't need If you want them bad enough. I did not NEED chair covers and sashes but I REALLY wanted them and I was going to be very sad if we did not have them. They make for a beautiful room. I think you and your FI need to sit down and think about it in those terms. Keep looking - like Chica said you might be able to find people looking to build their resume. GL!

Mrs Babs

Gabs I feel the same about chair covers and FI thinks they are absolutely ridiculous. We nixed them b/c we couldn't come up with the money but I'm still hoping...I think this is a big debate for engaged couples especially if you have two different views of what you pictured for your weddings (like me and my FI). Maybe you could compromise and do what YB did...?

missmg9

I think you're right in assuming it's a common issue.  We can't have everything we want, unless we have an unlimited budget.  I know I had to really think about what things were important to us, whether we "needed" them or not, and which I could do a different way to save money.  I looked for months for live ceremony music but in the end it just wouldn't fit in the budget in anyway.  Instead I spent a month searching for the perfect ceremony music, which I found and I could not have been happier with (found an acoustic version of the march, etc.).  If you take the time to highlight what matters most to you two, I really believe you'll forget the other things, or at least not care so much... maybe even love the alternative you came up with - I know I honestly did.  Hang in there, this is a tough part! 

haleymac

Yes!! I want an antique car so badly for FI and I to drive from the ceremony to the reception in.. but its only a 5 minute drive and its way too much $ for a 5 min drive!!  I haven't booked, because I keep telling myself its stupid, but once we have our final numbers and our estimated reception bill, I might just spring for it if we have extra $ in the budget because it is going to make me happy and make for wonderful pics!