So we are starting to get reply cards back and have found out just how clueless / ignorant / rude people can be LOL!The only children invitied to our wedding are our neices and nephews. Well, one of my cousins sent her reply in like this: Mr and Mrs XXXX AND XXXXX (their 12 year old daughter, who I barely know). My mother and I were pretty ticked - but figured it would be easier not to say something, than causing WW3. So next day - another cousin sends in her reply card with 2 additional meals checked off... her boyfriends 2 kids!! My mom flipped, she was like 'oh hell no!' LMAO!So she wrote a very nice email and sent it to each cousin, just changing the names: Hi XXXXXXX~ We just received your reply to Kelly and Neal's wedding invitation, and noticed that you included XXXXX as attending. As much as we would love to have all of Kelly and Neal's second cousins attend the wedding, logistically, it's just not possible. If we invite some of the second cousins, we have to invite all of them, to be fair. On our side, alone, there would be almost 20 more people, and Neal has a huge family with lots of cousins, as well. It's not that we're not inviting children, as there will be children at the wedding, but these are Kelly and Neal's nieces and nephews. Maybe we should have made it more clear on the invitation. I'm sorry if there was a misunderstanding. We had to make the cut-off somewhere, and it wasn't an easy decision, but one that had to be made. We hope that you understand. We look forward to celebrating the day with you. Can we still count on you and XXX to attend? Thanks for understanding, Love, XXXX & XXXXXAnd this is what we got back from the 1st cousin:In which case, XXX and I would have to decline. XXXXX is only twelve and I can't see myself telling my daughter I am going to a family event but she can't attend. Tell Kelly I wish her well and we will send something, either by mail or via my sister, if XXXXX still plans on attending. If not, I believe my parents are going.So this is what my mom wrote back to her:I'm sorry to hear that you won't be coming to the wedding. I was hoping that you could understand our predicament. As I said in my email, it was a very difficult decision to make, and one that we thought long and hard about. We were just trying to be fair to the entire family, and Neal's as well. I didn't mean to hurt your feelings or XXXXX's, but, obviously, I did, and for that, I'm sorry. This is not directed at only you. None of your cousins children will be attending. Again...I had to make a very difficult decision, and I was hoping that you would understand. Please don't feel obligated to send a gift...it was your "presence" we were hoping for, not your "present". Love, XXXXMY MOM ROCKS... I KNOW!!!Thoughts??PS. Feel free to use the 1st letter for yourselves if you run into the same problem - my mom would be flattered :)It was well recieved by the cousin who added her boyfriends kids.
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