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  • Goodness me, a man helping plan a wedding?  I think I have the vapors.

    If you can't learn to compromise about the colors you use to decorate a party, you have a long, hard road ahead.  It shouldn't be about one of you giving up and the other winning, it should be about coming to a mutually agreeable decision.
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  • Your poll does not have the right answer.  If the two of you can't reach some sort of compromise you need to call off the wedding.  This is such a small argument in the grad scheme of things that if you can't get through it you'll never get through actual problems in your marriage.
  • It's his wedding as much as it is yours.  Neither one of you should hand over the reigns, but neither one of you gets to trump the other either.

    Figuring out how to compromise and reach an agreement for trivial things like wedding colors will be good practice for facing real disagreements together in marriage.
  • Learn how to compromise.  It will make your whole marriage that much easier.  I mean, you wouldn't let him tell you what car to drive just because he's the man, and cars are a "guy" thing, would you?  Why would you expect him to let you make all the decorating decisions?
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  • You need to compromise on this. How about half the tables with white linens and the other half with black?
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  • Show him examples of what you have in mind so he can see that you aren't planning a funeral.  If he still disagrees, remember it's his wedding, too.  Back to the drawing board.
  • I agree with the PP. You have to remember that as big of a day as this is for you, it is a big day for him also. This really is just the beginning of many choices that you have to make together so maybe it is a good place to start to learn how to compromise with one another. You have to just go back and forth (with ideas that is) until you both reach something that makes you both happy. Also, you should take the fact that he is helping and wants say in the wedding as an amazing thing...My FI is very involoved, but many times the guy just helps with big details and lets the girl do everything. His interest shows how important this day is to you and you should not be trying to take complete control- dont forget that it is your wedding too so make sure that you are happy with everything as well!! Just enjoy having him there!!!  -GL
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  • I'm not sure how black could "be a part of you."  I don't think you get to demand any particular color.  You should find something you are both happy with, but if you say that there's only one color scheme that you could be happy with, then you are being unreasonable.

    BTW, I was going to do cranberry and blue, and FI didn't like that, so we're doing cranberry and brown.  No big deal.
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  • Um, now that you've deleted the OP and I didn't catch it beforehand, your poll looks kinda creepy and ambiguously racist.



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  • Good point, Beatles. I assumed that "the black" was referring to the plague.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_man-involved-decorating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9df699dc-de6b-4277-a26c-80a2006e8798Post:c7339b17-d432-4012-a027-615288d69512">Re: --</a>:
    [QUOTE]Um, now that you've deleted the OP and I didn't catch it beforehand, your poll looks kinda creepy and <strong>ambiguously racist.</strong>
    Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

    lolz
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  • Basically, she has her heart set on black and red for the wedding and her FI doesn't want black table linens.  She's disgusted that he has an opinion regarding the colors they should use for the reception and her final question was, "How can I get him to just hand over the reigns to me?"
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  • Ah, then my answer is to withhold sex.  Unless she's still holding her V card, then she's SOL.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_man-involved-decorating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9df699dc-de6b-4277-a26c-80a2006e8798Post:772f5e1f-7a55-43ea-8d16-ffc56077ac12">Re: --</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ah, then my answer is to withhold sex.  Unless she's still holding her V card, then she's SOL.
    Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this, it's the only way.



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  • OP, are you serious?! You deleted?! Who was even mean? Grow a thick skin.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_man-involved-decorating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9df699dc-de6b-4277-a26c-80a2006e8798Post:c7339b17-d432-4012-a027-615288d69512">Re: --</a>:
    [QUOTE]Um, now that you've deleted the OP and I didn't catch it beforehand, your poll looks kinda creepy and ambiguously racist.
    Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
    Me too! I was like, what is this supposed to mean? lol The more I get into wedding planning, the less and less I care about colors, napkins, invitations, and what not. At the end of the day, I'm marrying my best friend, and we're going to hve a party that will last 5 hours. These are not life decisions. So compromising is just so much easier.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_man-involved-decorating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9df699dc-de6b-4277-a26c-80a2006e8798Post:772f5e1f-7a55-43ea-8d16-ffc56077ac12">Re: --</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ah, then my answer is to withhold sex.  Unless she's still holding her V card, then she's SOL.
    Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

    BJs.
  • At first I thought she was just high strung and over reacting.  But if she's deleting over this, well, that's just sad.
  • I believe she had edited the OP to say that no, really, she and her FI get along fine and can compromise about EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE except for the color thing.  Yeah, I totally buy that.
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    Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
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