Drama in the family p,lease help!!!!!!!

Orycle

So my mom and dad went through a seperation a year ago. Well I told my mom that we were going to have the wedding at my dads, since he lives on six acres and its very affordable. She has now told me that her side of the family wont come and that it will be hard for her to come because she doesn't llike to be around him. I don't want to switch my venue because it's where I grew up and I love it there, but I also don't know how to respond to my mom. Can someone help me please?

MrsGandthebeag

You're mom sounds like she's being a bit of a brat.  I'd continue with your plans and explain to her it's only a few hours of her life she's got to deal with your dad and be on his property.  Stick to your plan. 

Katoners

No matter what venue you choose your father will be there (Im assuming), so having the wedding on his property shouldnt really change much.

Your mother is being childish. She needs to act like an adult and put aside her personal issues for a few hours and act civil.

AddieCake

Tell your mom that if she can't get through a few hours in the same vicinity as her ex husband for the sake of her child that she and her side of the family will be missed. 

erinlin25

your mom is way out of line! tell her to grow up and get over it, and call her bluff. She will be the one who will suffer and regret it the most if she is not at your wedding. big hug, hope she comes around

kmmssg

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_drama-in-the-family-please-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9f2d58db-740b-4708-9bfa-d372ab530fa9Post:97ef127b-fc5f-4cbe-9967-80c562168229">Re: Drama in the family p,lease help!!!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Tell your mom that if she can't get through a few hours in the same vicinity as her ex husband for the sake of her child that she and her side of the family will be missed. 
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto this 100%
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Orycle

I guess my dad wrote my grandma a letter so she doesnt want us to get married there either. She did offer her house but its not near as pretty... Im feeling a little anxious and irritated right now

Orycle

So, I have decided to make some changes. We are going to cut our wedding from 100 to 50, Ive always wanted a more intimate wedding anyways and still plan on keeping it at my dads house. We may change it though only due to the smaller party and that frees up more funds for other venues. I do feel much better about saying bah and going with what we want and makes us happy vs who we should or what we should have ^^. Thanks everyone for your advice!

she22ybe22y

I see everyone siding against the mom here.  Where it is your day, and your dad has given you a wonderfull setting for your wedding- it is not like any other venue where the "turf" is mutual.  She will litterally be on his "turf" for lack of better word, and I'm sure it makes her VERY uncomfortable.  It is not enough of a reason not to go, she is probably suprised.  She may react to your decision better if you are more understanding of how this would be dificult for her, and probably very emotional.  Explain that this is something that your dad wants to do for you.  She already knows this, yes, but hearing it may help.  If you don't help calm her nerves about being at your dad's and you convince her to go, I would fear having a scene on your hands.