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Korine_craze
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Bride Planning Showers?

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Lately I have been racking my brain to come up with who I would like as BMs. I have never had a lot of female friends. My BM consideration were my sister (She lives in WA and I am in CA) and a friend that I have made through my Fiance (I haven't known her that long, and we don't really hang out all that often) My Fiance has 2 Groomsmen (why I felt I have to have to BM). I thought that since I wasn't really close with either of them that I would just do the planning for any showers/party's (I have female friends just not very super close ones)
I have been reading some of the post's and it seems a lot of people's idea is that I should have no part in planning the showers. I don't think it's right to ask someone to plane one for me. Any ideas or advice?
I have been reading some of the post's and it seems a lot of people's idea is that I should have no part in planning the showers. I don't think it's right to ask someone to plane one for me. Any ideas or advice?
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Re: Bride Planning Showers?
I think once someone offers to throw a shower for you, I think it is okay to give input because it is your shower. Don't expect to run the shower if others are paying for it though.
Good luck and I hope someone offers to throw you one!
A shower is a gift that someone may choose to give to you. Your BMs may choose to throw one, or they may not. A friend or relative or coworker or church member may choose to throw one. If no one offers to throw a shower for you, you don't get one. It is very rude to throw your own shower.
For your BMs, they should be your closest friends in the whole world. They can be any age, location or gender. If you have men in your life that fill this roll, it's fine to ask them. If you have exactly two close friends, that's fine. If you have a different number than your FI, that's fine. If you don't have anyone on your side, that's fine, too.
And you don't need to have even numbers of GM and BM. If you aren't close to the second girl, just have one bridesmaid. The world won't self-destruct, I promise. And your marriage will still be valid.
And don't ask somebody to be a bridesmaid just to have somebody up there. You can ask men or women to be on your side, the sides do not need to be even (Like if your FI has 7 people on his side, it's ok if you only have 2 on yours or whatever). Ask whoever is really important to you. I know there's girls that ask their moms to be their matrons of honor if they are really close.
As far as your sister goes, you may not be close, but if you come from a family where that sort of thing is important, it's sometimes easier to ask then to deal with hearing about how you DIDN'T ask at every Christmas for the rest of your life (Trust me, this really does happen). Just because she's far away doesn't mean she can't stand up for you. Yeah, she might not be around for shopping or things like that, but you guys can trade ideas and pictures online. But don't worry about asking her because she's not around to fulfill bridesmaid "duties". Essentially, bridal party members only need to get attire and show up wearing it ... anything else they volunteer to do for you is icing on the big white cake!
Best wishes!
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Planning Bio-Updated 3/11 with groomsmen attire
I got all cought up in the planning stuff I think I kind of thought you HAD to have one. Didn't really understand it as a "gift". That makes me feel better, one less thing for me to worry about.