Alternative Father Daughter Dance/cerimony

Laugh&smile72

Does anyone have any ideas for an alternative father daughter dance? See, my dad did not raise me and only plays a small roll in my life.  I would love my mom to be a big part of the cerimony and reception. I'm not even sure if I will have my dad walk me down the isle yet. I just don't want either one of them to be offended. When it comes to the dance. I thought about many different ways to include both of them, but they seem too long and drawn out. Does anyone have any ideas? It's such a tricky situation.

NcsuPsych

Just don't have the Father Daughter dance, and don't have anyone walk you down the isle.

Or play a dedication song or something for both parents to honor them, but don't dance with them to it? I dont know, I suck at suggestions tonight. Good luck though!

KatyRoseM

Just don't do the dance.  Have both of them walk in with you?  Just an idea but it would honor both of them.  Or just have your mother.  If your close with her you should just have a frank talk with her about it. 

FutureMrsTayPrince

Ew you would dance with yuor daddy thats nasty. 

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Ew you would dance with yuor daddy thats nasty. 
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Aww you're back. Such a bummer. All those candy hearts make me feel sick.

amnevills

If you're closer with your mom then I would suggest that you do what you would do with your father but insert your mom instead. However, if you're afraid of offending someone, you could skip both BUT it may offend your father just by skipping it. It is tricky.

Would it be so bad to have the father/daughter dance? Maybe it would bring you closer and you would have that special moment. For your mother, if you really want to honor her, you could give her a toast during the wedding (or at the rehearsal dinner).

If you really don't want to do either of those with your father I think it would be important for you to talk to him about that so that he's not surprised by it when the rehearsal comes. Good luck! I hope this helped you!

Laugh&smile72

I hadn't thought about my mother giving a special toast. That's a great idea! In fact, I will probably do that . I think that will make her feel more involved, especially if I do decide to have my dad walk me down. Actually, my whole life I planned on not having him walk me down...that was the only part of my wedding I had planned as a girl. Now that it's here, and staring me in the face...I just don't know if I want that kind of conflict entering a new part of my life. Thank you . Especially thank you for being so kinda about it.

Laugh&smile72

My oldest sister had both of them walk down because she felt the same way..aka "why should he get the privilage to walk me down and give me away, when he never had me in the first place." I am highly considering that! Thank you for your imput

Laugh&smile72

It's "tradition"...and really, are post like these really needed? We are all try to, or already have, figured out our wedding. When you do not really have anyone to guide you along an exponential amount who knows what their doing, these things get kind of tricky.