nerves

tmwanyo

My wedding is still a ways away 9-3-11....but for some reason lately out of no where I will get crazy nervous. Just mainly that everything wont all come together in the end.

Does anyone else have their nerves just hit them out of nowhere? I feel silly to be honest I usually don't get nervous about much of anything....

MyWedding13

this has been happening to me a lot lately. I don't know why. I just get these panic attacks about marriage and weddings etc. I think this is pretty normal and will just pass with time.

karinjose

My wedding is less than a month away, and I'm getting nerves like crazy!  Even at the beginning of my engagement, I was getting nerves for the same reason as you.  I was afraid things weren't going to come together and I wasn't going to get to have everything I ever wanted for my wedding.  It helps if you just think about the person you're marrying and how great it's going to be to be Mrs.___.  Even now, as I am having issues with my reception venue and guest list...I just think of how exciting it's going to be to be married!  and then my nerves are a bit at ease   just know that having nerves is completely and totally normal   it also helps to stay orgainzed with your planning

jenn.daniel

After getting the major vendors booked, I calmed down a LOT.  I trust them to do things right, so I don't have to worry so much.

jmkes

I have 27 days and am not all that nervous.  I know not everything will go perfectly and I am ok with that.  As long as FI & the pastor are there with rings & our marriage license, everything else is just gravy.  By Sept of next year you will be so sick of looking at wedding stuff you won't care anymore. 

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As someone who is already married, just relax and enjoy your engagement. I know this may sound easier said than done, but really, do it. It sounds like you are nervous about the wedding, not getting married, am I correct?

You have plenty of time to work out the details, and your engagement is really a special time. If you get too caught up in the details, then you will find yourself married and think, gosh that did go by really fast.

Honestly, we were engaged for about 15 months before getting married. After I had the main vendors booked, we took a break from wedding planning (except picking up something here and there) until it was about 6 months out of so. There are plenty of brides who have planned fancy, elaborate affairs in a shorter time than what you have.

All of the details for ours started coming together in the last 4-6 months and as I was making progress everyday, getting this done or that done, I was happy. Just make yourself lots of lists (to do, to buy, etc) and check things off as you go. TK has some checklists as well you may want to check out. I used them as a guide, but wrote my own so it was tailored to my wedding needs.

Good luck with the rest of the planning. Everything will be A ok

mmgumbel

We are planning a 300 person plus wedding... that is detailed.... and we are doing it in less than 6 months.... Yes, there is a lot to do... but the one thing I keep telling myself is that if everything is not exactly how I planned.... I am the only one who will know!!  The only thing that matters is you are marrying the love of your life... Enjoy the planning with him... but make time for non-wedding items as well!

Another suggestion... if you can fit it into your budget... hire a planner.... I have the "full meal deal" package... All I can say is she is just the BEST.... When I need to vent or have a grande or petite idea that may be way off the wall or right on target... I simply e-mail her....  

tmwanyo

no not nervous about gettting married at, just the wedding. getting the guest list down to a reasonable number is a huge task for me. so once that is under control things might be a bit more calm for me.

lindsaynewbride10

The guest list was a huge problem for us too- we wanted to invite no more than 200 but ended up with 215, and had started with 275. So you can imagine the amount of sleep we weren't getting... just get your big vendors done and out of the way and you'll be better, then the rest are just details and you'll definitely have fun with that.