So FI and I do not live together. This really has nothing to do with morals or not believing in this before marriage, it is just how things worked out. FI owns a home and I rent a townhouse and I have a roommate. We got engaged right after I renewed my lease with my roommate and my lease will be up the week before our wedding. I didn't want to be a jerk to my roommate and just bail so we maintain separate residences. I am the primary on our lease, and I lived there long before she moved in, so most everything (furniture, etc) is mine, and all the bills are in my name. I didn't want to leave her with nothing, that wouldn't be fair. Anyways, because of this all of our finances are separate. We have different cell phone plans, utilities are separate, all that stuff. It's just becoming stressful that we can't combine finances. Our expenses are basically double what they should be because everything is separate. We started moving forward with combining cell phone plans until FI realized his is not up until the end of August. We were going to move to my plan because mine isn't up until December 2012 (we have different carriers so one of us would have to pay a penalty.) Anyways, it's just becoming frustrating, spending all this extra money when we are trying to save for a wedding! Not to mention bouncing back and forth between one another's house all the time. Anyone else in this situation or similar??