Is this too early?

M&R7111

I bought my dress at David's Bridal a few months ago and my wedding is still over a year away.  I know it was early but I tried one on out of the blue just to see if it was a cut I wanted, and loved it.  It was discontinued, in my size, and the only one, AND half off, so I up and bought it.   I love it.

I got a phone call today from the DB rep that helped me asking when she can schedule for me to bring my brides maids in for their dresses.  I haven't even thought about that yet!!!!  Before I knew the rep was like "Ok, I can put you down for July 2 at 5".  (Are all reps this pushy??) So, that means my BMs will be looking for dresses 264 days before the wedding?  (Getting married July 1 2011).  I want to cancel.  I intended on having them buy their own dresses and just agree on a general color scheme.  (My wedding doesn't have "colors".)

I wanted to wait until fall or maybe Jan. of next year to start with this BM stuff.  So is this normal to have the BMs dress shop this early?  If I go to DB with the girls, do I have to order dresses? Well, I know I don't HAVE TO, but is that expected?  I don't want to waste this rep's time.  Can we just shop and brainstorm on what would look good? It really isn't at all important to me what the BMs wear.  So - is it normal to have BMs involved in dress shopping this early, with over a year to go??

quotequeen

Don't have the BM shop for dresses this early.  Absolutely cancel the appointment.  Most people would say you shouldn't even have picked your BMs yet.

aerinpegadrak

They're just being pushy, you can certainly cancel the appointment.  It's way too early.  I got my gown from David's, and none of the bridesmaid dresses came from there.  Depending on the designer, you shouldn't need to take them shopping any more than 6-8 months out.

M&R7111

Well, when I got engaged I only asked my cousin and sister-in-law.  I only have family in it so far.  I thought maybe the rep read the date wrong and thought it was this summer, but then again, she scheduled me for the day after the wedding would be.

apaadzzzz

It's definately too early! From what I heard about Davids they can be pushy, she wasn't calling you bc its time to have your BM pick dresses, she is calling bc she wants the sale. Cancel your appointment ,and wait unitl the end of the year or Jan to pick the dresses.

M&R7111

OK, good.  I'm going to call and cancel tomorrow!

Thanks ladies!  I thought this was strange but then again I am clueless on how to plan a wedding.

HisCB

ditto it being to early to order dresses (and imo too early to pick bms)

the davids that i have been going to wasnt pushy at all, so maybe its not all of them.

NcsuPsych

I'm agreeing with pp when they say DB is pushy. They're high sale and make commission on dresses. They'll also tell you that dresses are discontinued or 'on the chopping block' when they arent. They'll do this so you'll get frantic and do a quick sale.

This is not to say ALL DB are like this, but the 3 that I went to during my planning stage as well as going for a friends wedding who I was a BM for were this way.

With this said, there are some great deals to be made at this store and haggling is possible (at least it was for my friend).

I would definetely wait for BM dresses so that A. you can make sure you have your BP all ready to go and asked, B. Styles change and so do tastes in dresses, C. People change sizes and financial situations change and D. (Love this one the most) SALES!!  )


I hope this doesn't sound snarky, it's not mean't to be. I hope this helps you and good luck with the process. Also congrats on your engagment! )

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp. The lady at my local DB was really pushy, too. It wasn't until I went to smaller bridal boutique and she told me they were on commission, so that explained everything for me.

It is way too early to buy BM's dresses. I am getting married in a few weeks, we looked in January at DB and the girls ordered them shortly thereafter. They told us 4-6 mos and most of them came in sooner than that depending on when they ordered them. You just have to be nice and put your foot down with them.

Also, usually there spring/summer styles and colors (they do change there color schemes often) come out in Jan, that is why we wanted until then as well. I was so glad bc one of the 2 colors I was considering did change, so I am glad I didn't have my heart absolutely set on it.

Good luck and have fun!

Xan921

I agree with everyone else, it's best to wait.  My bridesmaids and I went and tried on/picked out dresses in March, my wedding is in October.  They all just recently ordered their dresses in the last couple of weeks.  You don't want to do it too far out because opinions as well as weight will change.

brianabrad

Agreed. Seems a little early to me. My wedding is July 2011 and I don't plan to start shopping for my dress till November and then do BM's around January or so. I have picked my BM's and they all know they will be in the wedding. All of them are long time friends and one is the FI's sister. It was basically a no brainier to pick them.

DavidandAmyClark

I actually just bought my dress at DB, my mom talked me into shopping at a bridal show and I ended up LOVING my dress.  I am also getting married July 2011. The David's Bridal lady told me to bring my girls in no later than March 2011.  So .......but  if you girlies are into it, you don't have to buy anything, it could just be a fun shopping trip. But I would NOT buy them this early.

I feel like I bought my dress early, but when you love your dress, you love your dress......

M&R7111

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_this-early?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:bf194e03-c290-46de-a53b-fd8121a4b69aPost:b7147986-89c2-4d81-b565-8223dbaded44">Re: Is this too early?</a>:
[QUOTE]Definately to early, if your <strong>BMs can get pregnant </strong>and give birth all in the timeframe BEFORE your wedding, its too early :) Too much can happen/change, weight to be gained/lost. Wait until a few months before your wedding
Posted by girl2bewed[/QUOTE]

RIGHT!  This was another fear of mine when this lady "put me down" for July.  My SIL, who is going to be a BM has told me that she and my brother are planning kid #2 to be born the month before my wedding. (so she <u>assures</u>, lol)  So there is a chance she will be bigger, still prego, or not in the wedding at all (maybe giving birth to niece/nephew 2???).   I need to be flexible with her as  a BM.  Only thing is, I was planning to ask her to be my MOH, oh well, we will see when that time comes. :)

M&R7111

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[QUOTE]I actually just bought my dress at DB, my mom talked me into shopping at a bridal show and I ended up LOVING my dress.  I am also getting married July 2011. The David's Bridal lady told me to bring my girls in no later than March 2011.  So .......but  if <strong>you girlies are into it, you don't have to buy anything, it could just be a fun shopping trip. But I would NOT buy them this early.</strong> I feel like I bought my dress early, but when you love your dress, you love your dress......
Posted by DavidandAmyClark[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I was thinking that maybe just going in with the girls and see what we liked and to brainstorm ideas (like I said, I don't have colors picked or anything).  But I am afraid that we won't be able to enjoy the "window shopping" because we will be pushed by the sales lady into making purchases.  So I would rather not go.

ChanelShades

Cancel it! They will push you to purchase something. I would wait. You can window shop if you want; however, remember that you will NOT purchase a thing. I would cancel all together though.