Wow, Way To Rub It In....(rant)

MrsG2B83

Suffice it to say, I've had an icky week:

My son's not feeling well. Over the weekend I sunk my blackberry into the bottom of the lake and had to pay an $89 insurace premium to get another one.
Worst of all: our car got broken into. Some crackhead completely shattered the passenger side window to get the mount to our GPS (just the mount; we keep the GPS in the house) and an old bottle of cologne. So I spent last night saran wrapping the car where the window was supposed to be. And now it's raining. Fantastic.

In a moment of just...ugh... I sent my friend (one of my BMs and the Godmother to my son) a text : "Just had to saran wrap the window. Officially feel like trash. Damnit I went to college!!! LOL"
Her response was "That's what you get when you're with a man who DIDN'T"

Wow. Ouch.
Some facts: my FI went to trade school to become an electrician. This friend and I both went to school to become teachers and it isn't panning out well for either of us. We're all having hard times so who is she to judge?

I could be catty about a couple things about her: her babydaddy situation, her penchant for chasing guys that aren't available or interested. I could go on and on but I won't because she's my friend and that's not right.

My feelings are just really hurt.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

So he didn't go to college - uh, he went to trade school for a specific trade.  I think for some people that's a helluva better option than wasting a couple years in college trying to figure out what you want to do with your life and wasting a bunch of money in the process.

Your friend was really rude and it was completely uncalled for.

waltzingmatilda13

Wow, that was completely uncalled for. Regardless of your situation, college is not for everyone and you can be successful without it.

Just try to ignore her for now and maybe mention something about it in person later. Let her know that you thought that comment was offensive and hurtful. I'm sure she'll feel like an idiot for saying it.

staceytaylor0704

Geez! yea, I'd be offended and upset too.
I agree with AATB, trade school can be WAY better because at least you have a specific job in mind..
I'm still in school, and waffling around on exactly what it is that I want to do.

That was just rude of her to say. I'd say something to her.

zitiqueen

I know she didn't try to sleep with your FI or try to set you on fire, but I'd be seriously tempted to tell her to find other plans for May 21, 2011. 

TheCranberry

Wow.  What a bi-atch.  Why would she even say something like this?  I think you need to ask yourself: is she really a friend?

megk8oz

That was incredibly uncalled for. I know people say all the time you never know the "exact tone" when it's a text message, but seriously, how else could something like that be interpreted other than as some kind of insult? 

Your FI did what was best for him, and there's absolutely no shame in what he's trying to do (Oh noes, the man got a non-college education to do honest work!) ... and I don't think that's anything for her to be judgey about. There are tons of people that don't go to college at all, or go but don't graduate, that do just fine for themselves ... a degree =/= being successful.
 
Honestly, I'd send a text back saying you weren't aware that a college degree granted you some sort of magic immunity from people breaking into your car or having a bad day. But I'm also in a really bitchy mood at the moment.

aerinpegadrak

My response?  "Since when is a degree required to perform home repairs?  Or a penis, for that matter?"  But I'm bitchy like that.

ichellemay1

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[QUOTE]So he didn't go to college - uh, he went to trade school for a specific trade.  I think for some people that's a helluva better option than wasting a couple years in college trying to figure out what you want to do with your life and wasting a bunch of money in the process. Your friend was really rude and it was completely uncalled for.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

This.

eshaufle

Wow, what an awful thing for her to say.  I know things can come off worse in texts than if they were spoken but I can't think of any scenario where that coming out of her mouth would have sounded any better!  I don't think I could tolerate a friend who said something that insulting about my FI.  He did what was best for him and I know our electrician charges us an arm and a leg for repairs so they can't be doing all that badly :-).  I'm sorry you're having such a tough day and hope it gets better!

AGriffin620

Wow, that was just plain nasty of her.  Considering you were texting her to vent, while at the same time making it a little more light hearted with the "LOL", AND she's your friend, that response was extremely insensitive.  Especially since she insulted your FI.  That was completely uncalled for.

I'm sorry you're having such a rough week, and I really do hope it gets better for you.  Hang in there and keep your chin up.

AGriffin620

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[QUOTE]Well, since he wanted to be an electrician, I'd say it was pretty SMART of him to go to trade school instead of dropping $50k on a college degree that wouldn't actually help him do the job he wanted anyway.  But, I have this whole problem with logic... Like I use it regularly. That was horribly rude and honestly I wouldn't be able to just ignore it.  When someone attacks DH, even in a rude "joke" manner, they're attacking me too and I don't stand for that.  I'd give her a piece of my mind.
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Well said...and ditto.

mrscarter052011

That just sucks. I hope things turn around and you're the better person for not saying something equally catty.

PS. As PP's said there is nothing wrong with trade schools.  Out here electricians and plumbers do well. 

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[QUOTE]I know she didn't try to sleep with your FI or try to set you on fire, but I'd be seriously tempted to tell her to find other plans for May 21, 2011. 
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking. This chick is not a friend, she sucks. Oh, the things I would say to someone who said something like that to me.

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who says that?!?!?!?!

i guess attending college didn't teach her any class

MISSCOURTNEY20

Yikes! What a way to keep a friend. Hope you feel better soon!

sister2groom

I can't figure out when this all happened, but I would probably try to say nothing for a day and then give myself a chance to cool down (and have lots of really snarky imaginary conversations with her) and maybe give her a chance to apologize. Otherwise I would probably respond to something that rude with something that could not be taken back.

mattycam

ouch!!!
My FI did one year of college and dropped out because he works better with his hands (trade). That deserves an apology to both you and your FI.

shaydenise

Um my dad went to trade school to be an electrician and he's making 6 figures and manages all of the jobs he works on sooo what's your "friends" deal?

zitiqueen

Definitely remember this the next time she asks your FI for some type of (free) electrical help.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]I know she didn't try to sleep with your FI or try to set you on fire, but I'd be seriously tempted to tell her to find other plans for May 21, 2011. 
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

This. I don't think I'd even talk to someone who had so little respect for the man I was planning on spending my life with again.

maratea

Be sure to tell her that jobs earned with trade school cred usually make more money than college grads. My brother is in trade school to be an electrician, and he has to work 40hrs a week as a journeyback as part of training. He's making the same amount as I am. I'm 2 years out of school, with a job in my field and lots more debt than him from school loans.

Also, your friend sounds like an insufferable bitch. And you are a good friend for putting up with her.

loves2shop4shoes

Hmm...with friends like that, who needs enemies?

tldh

Tell her this.  Some clients of mine who were trade union (electricians, carpenters) were making as much, if not more, than what attorneys and doctors start out making.

bdulli13

i know several electricians who make twice what the teachers i know make. that is a LUCRATIVE career, once you're done with apprenticeship and such.

be the bigger person, of course, but don't get down. not for nothing, i make a significant amount more than most of my friends who spent the last four to six years in college do, because i was working my way through the ranks while they were reading books. a lot of them can't even find jobs. college=very little during these economic times although it's a wonderful thing to say you've completed, and will hopefully mean a lot more when things pick up.

chalk it up to her having a bad day also, but don't let her abuse you.