Wedding Nervousness

xstaticnyc

Hi - I'm feeling quite anxious as my wedding is a month away. How do you or did you girls feel when you had to make an appearance in front of lots of people? This is the part that makes me the most nervous, having lots of eyes on me. I'm feeling quite scared at the moment and am extremely nervous that when I have to dance or walk down the aisle, I'm going to feel so nervous that I might faint. How do you girls cope? Are there any techniques you use to overcome stagefright or do you not feel the way I do? Please give me some tips because at this point, I can't back out of the wedding and being uncomfortable and all, I'm still going to have to do. But I just don't want to feel overwhelmingly panicky and nervous. Thanks in advance!

vgmartinez

I'm a little nervous about this but I'm just going to focus on my FI on the altar so keep it out of my mind that there are a lot of people there. Just imagine that's it's only you and him there. Also, make time to eat a healthy breakfast/lunch before the wedding. Sometimes when I'm nervous about something, I won't eat and this causes me to get dizzy or feel like fainting.

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I was fine until it was time to walk down the aisle. We were so busy the day before and morning of, since we did almost everything ourselves, so there wasn't really time to think. But just before, my stomach started to hurt just thinking of all the people.

But honestly, it went by so fast that I barely even noticed anyone. Walking down the aisle all I focused on was DH and during the ceremony there was a lot going on (we did a blanket ceremony so we had a lot of people up there with us), and during the reception it was more like one big friend and family reunion. You'll probably be surprised how fast your nerves disappear.

AmandalovesAl

Make sure you eat a good breakfast.  Try also not to see A BIG Group, and look at individuals as you walk down the aisle!! A million people is scary, but Aunt Bea and Cousin Joe and Friend Mike aren't.  Remember they are there because they love you and want to celebrate with you.  Just break it down.

blondie82784

Im on the same page you are.. I dont know how im going to do it. I come off as not being shy but the people who truly know me will def. know im scarred.... ill prob. start crying and shaking... I just hope I dont get dizzy and faint like I always do

quotequeen

Try to just focus on your FI as you are walking down the aisle and don't look around at everybody else.

jenn.daniel

I was told to smile at individual people as I walk down this aisle.  And each time you smile make sure you breath.

xstaticnyc

Thanks girls! I feel a bit better. I'll try to focus on individuals and block out groups of people and just focus on my FI in the end. Take deep breaths and just focus. That's all we can do.

jamjar11

I actually don't feel nervous about walking down the aisle. A little about the dancing, because I suck. But I am really nervous about having to talk to people. I'm really, really not good at socializing with people I don't know or have never even met at all. And this will be the bulk of my guests. I'll probably have an anxiety attack or two.

soontobeschooley

This is also what is causing me the most anxiety about my wedding!!!  I'm not shy and will talk to people until the cows come home, but I don't like all eyes being on me.  This is good advice for all of us then.

Thanks ladies!!

jlmeier5

it can be nerveracking. thinking about it but when it comes down to it it is after all...all about you the bride! i say hold your chin up and breathe deep and hey if you have to, to over come the nerviousness, then act a little cocky!

SheTeaches

Nerves are understandable!  Of course they are all looking at you - they have never seen you more beautiful!  :-)

Be sure your breakfast and lunch includes some lean protein, not just sugar.  A handful of plain almonds will settle your stomach.  Be sure to drink plenty of water throughout the day.  Be sure to schedule and insist on a few quiet moments to think, pray, meditate, gently stretch or whatever helps you to feel confident - don't just rush from "have to do this" to "have to do that."  Take a deep breath, while smiling, before you take a step to prevent fainting.

Smile and breathe - say "Thank you for coming" *smile*  "We're so glad you could be here today" a lot and you'll be fine with the social requirements. 

jamjar11

When all else fails, booze helps. That's my strategy in most situations.