Wedding Party Help!

Hbeeson

I already have my bridesmaids but want to include a few more close friends. I know people ask friends and family to pass out programs, be in charge of the guest book, ushers, etc... any other traditional roles?
Thanks!

AceTT

Don't ask anyone to pass out programs, man the guest book, or any kind of "job" like that. Your other close friends can be just guests; that is an honor in itself.

I was the co-program passer outer/guest book manning person for a friend's wedding years ago. II had to sit in the very last row at the ceremony, since we couldn't sit until everyone else had been seated with their programs, etc. I would have preferred to have just been a guest.

cwaggoner07

What about doing a reading at the ceremony?

HobokensFury

These are lame jobs and are not an honor. Skip them.

MyNameIsNot

If they aren't close enough to be a BM or be performing/reading in the ceremony, just let them be guest.

Nothing smarts like a crappy runner up job.  

QueerFemme

I saw an episode of "Say yes to the dress - Bridesmaids" last night and this bride had 6 BMs and 2 "honorary bridesmaids".  It was ridiculous.   Made up "jobs" are not necessary.  Just let them sit down and have a cocktail after with everyone else.

UKgal321

Any one a fan of "Sex and the City"?  This reminds me of an episode where all the girls were invited to a wedding but Miranda was the special one because her friend had a special place for her at the wedding.  Turns out it was manning the guest book.  Needless to say she was P.O.ed.

Benny618

I was actually blindsided by a girlfriend who told me I was not going to be her bridesmaid because she didn't want to have "too many" but she'd like me to be involved by handing out programs.  This is at her destination wedding that will cost me and my fiance about $2k to attend.  After being told I'm not a bridesmaid, I plan on attending as a guest; I do not want a "job" ---- can I tell her that??????????

librababy

A reader would be more of an honored position but I think handing out programs is a little odd for an adult.  I am going to ask my bm's 12 year old daughter since it'll be 1 program per family, not per person.  And even then, it's still not all that special of a job, even for a 12 year old.