Feeling insecure...

MyWedding13

I don't know what is going on with me lately, but I have been so insecure about everything! I feel like I am never good enough: like I am not a "good enough" student, a "good enough" daughter, a "good enough" friend....I also have been feeling ugly and fat and feel like I have no style    I wonder where all of this is coming from. Do any of you get really insecure? How do you get out of it?

christinelyn0131

Sometimes I do. Usually when I'm super hormonal (or when I watch the Miss USA pageant...)

I usually allow myself a day of self loathing and wallowing with my other fiances, Ben and Jerry, and a good movie. Something of that sort. SOmetimes I make an "it would be worse list" (1. I could be Snooki. 2. I could look like Snooki. 3. I could be allergic to chocolate, etc.) or I try and force myself to think of all the good things (my fiance, my kitty, my loving parents, how I magically passed history last year by some twist of fate, etc.)

Hope this helps

NillaWafer10

Have you gone through a major life change recently?  I find that big changes often upset my daily routine and thus affect my mood. 

You could try increasing your exercise each day to boost your endorphins.  If you keep up with the exercise for two weeks straight, treat yourself to a new outfit at the mall.  Motivation is divine for my self esteem

As for being a better person, pick something small, but nice to do for each major person in your life.  Even if it goes unnoticed, you can have the satisfaction of knowing you did it.  You could pack a lunch for your FI, call your parents just to say "I love you,"  help out a classmate by typing up some notes for when they missed class, or bring in a healthy treat for your co-workers.

Most importantly, take a deep breath, look in the mirror and say all the things you love about yourself out loud.  It feels silly at first, but it works!

PharmacyBride

I read an article in Redbook the other day (I was at a doctor's office.. lol) and it was about how you can do a bunch of little stuff every day to build your confidence.

The ones I remember...

~stop apologizing for things that aren't your fault (I apologize for the weather when it ruins FIs plans... yea.. I apologize waaaay tooooo much)

~stand up straight.. shoulders back, boobs out, belly button in.. better posture actually affects mood

~ smile often

~ tell yourself 3 things you like about yourself before you leave the house for the day and before you go to bed

They had like 50 total.. but try those and see if it makes a difference in a week  : )

LIfe is all about perspective.. I had a lot going for me and one thing going against me- and it through me into a depression (months ago).. I just chose to focus on the wrong things.  You have a lot going for you.. I KNOW this.. you just have to look at life from a different angle!

HTHs

MyWedding13

Thank you for all of the insight! I will be sure to use your tips!

PharmacyBride.......I am in pharmacy school! Are you in school or are you finished?

PharmacyBride

Just graduated.. went to Ohio State, but I am from Chicago originally.  What year are you in?  Which school?

The retail jobs are plentiful in Ohio (I like retail, because I LOVE counseling patients)- but I found out late in the game that Chicago is saturated.  Despite being SUPER involved in national and local pharmacy organizations, good grades, and tons of experience- I couldn't even get the recruiters to look at my CV (they weren't even giving out their recruiter's contact info anymore).  We were going to move to WI after the wedding for a job, but I finally got one with a company I love!!!  I started on Wednesday!

This whole not having a job thing through me into a depression despite everything else I had going for me.. so I know how it can be to look at only the down side of things.

Although some areas of the country are more saturated than others (ie Chicago), hopefully the job market is a sign of the times (less growth in companies, less people retiring) - I hope you don't go through what I have been through this year when you graduate!!

Have a great semester/quarter!!!  PM if your want : )

NillaWafer10

I just moved to Chicago, and I can't find a nursing job as a new grad either.  It's such a terrible market