We aren't extending our invitations to children with the exception of immediate family due to budget and seating restrictions. My dear old friend sent me an email today and said that she loves our save the dates but her mom noticed that I forgot to include her son (she's living with her mom for the time-being) and that made them sad. She and her boyfriend are expecting a baby in late August (my wedding is late September) and I did include Baby "Jones" on the save the date. I apologized and said that blah blah blah about the budget/space and that in hindsight adding Baby Jones might have made it look like I forgot her son, but that I included the baby because I knew that she would potentially be a nursing mother and that I didn't expect her to leave her newborn at home. And that a mutual friend of ours is expecting her first this summer and I wanted them both to know that they are welcome to bring their newborns. I reminded her that these aren't formal invitations and that we will review everything before the invites go out and might be able to extend our invitations to entire families, but no promises. And that we know we may lose her and her bf as guests, but we hope that's not the case. I think I handled it ok, but it still made me sad
I just wish we could invite everyone.