Please tell me if I'm wrong, or being stubborn...
FI and I had decided on having a First Look bc the ceremony, cocktail hour and reception are all being held at the same place. When my FMIL " found out" about this she flipped (it had been mentioned in several conversations before in her presence) and pulled the "since you didn't honor my request to get married in the church, you have to do this" card because she believes we shouldn't see each other before the ceremony... The only stress we've encountered during the wedding planning is when she makes "requests" which are more demands and she has had them about pretty much every aspect of the wedding, most of them I can brush off but this one seems to have hit a sour note with me...
I feel like the bad person because I want to have a first look... my parents want me to be happy and agree with my logic about the first look (i'm a very detail oriented person, and its all about the timing and the shots and not making the guests wait any longer than they have to while we get our pictures taken) my wedding party believe in the the traditional, although they will support me in whatever we choose, and my fiance was fine with it untill his mother balked and now he just wants to make her happy...
I don't ever want to make my FI have to choose between his mother and me, but there is no other option(that I see) where he doesn't have to choose... and it is killing me... I know that "its our wedding, and we should do whatever makes us happy, FMIL isn't contributing at all to the wedding, etc." but the guilt I am having about wanting this is bad, and i've talked to FI about it, and he doesn't want to make either of us unhappy...
I'm sorry this is so long, but i was hoping that maybe I could get a "third party" opinion, from someone who isn't directly involved with the wedding... Thank you for letting me vent :-)