Flats?!

sabatron

I hate heels, so I'm wearing flats. What sucks here is that I'm 5'2 and I don't want my bridesmaids towering over me in heels. Would it be out of line to have them wear flats? I'm thinking about something plain and simple like these: http://www.dessy.com/accessories/duchess-bridesmaid-ballet-flat/


My bridesmaids are wearing this dress: http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing%3F.out%3Djpg%26size%3Dl%26tid%3D12231380&imgrefurl=http://www.polyvore.com/js_boutique_beaded_jersey_halter/thing%3Fid%3D12231380&usg=__5F64U0RcTBicASRLMokpLbT_jIM=&h=300&w=300&sz=11&hl=en&start=2&sig2=9LtZiSr1QLa15j087DYA8g&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=k9MW9zxD_0NHJM:&tbnh=116&tbnw=116&prev=/images%3Fq%3Djs%2Bboutique%2Bjersey%2Bhalter%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26tbs%3Disch:1&ei=M4cXTJjvO8H48Abbm-XrCA

Would flats look ridiculous with that dress? Input needed. Thanks!

sabatron

I hate heels, so I'm wearing flats. What sucks here is that I'm 5'2 and I don't want my bridesmaids towering over me in heels. Would it be out of line to have them wear flats? I'm thinking about something plain and simple like these: http://www.dessy.com/accessories/duchess-bridesmaid-ballet-flat/


My bridesmaids are wearing this dress: http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing%3F.out%3Djpg%26size%3Dl%26tid%3D12231380&imgrefurl=http://www.polyvore.com/js_boutique_beaded_jersey_halter/thing%3Fid%3D12231380&usg=__5F64U0RcTBicASRLMokpLbT_jIM=&h=300&w=300&sz=11&hl=en&start=2&sig2=9LtZiSr1QLa15j087DYA8g&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=k9MW9zxD_0NHJM:&tbnh=116&tbnw=116&prev=/images%3Fq%3Djs%2Bboutique%2Bjersey%2Bhalter%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26tbs%3Disch:1&ei=M4cXTJjvO8H48Abbm-XrCA

Would flats look ridiculous with that dress? Input needed. Thanks!

irisheyezfsu

wear whatever is comfortable for you. Just shop around and find some cute flats, they don't even have to be "wedding shoes" to be your wedding shoes. Lots of women today wear funky/beautiful shoes to show off. I know I am wearing green shoes, because it is one our wedding colors and most importantly my fav. color.  Have fun it is your wedding day!

jagore08

Yes, I think it would be out of line to ask your BM to wear flats unless they all like wearing flats.  Most of my girlfriends rarely wear flats with dresses or skirts so that would be out for them.  Ask your girls if they would be comfortable in flats but if they say no don't push the issue.  

sabatron

My sister, who's my MOH is around 5'7 and is dying to wear heels. I feel like I'll look absolutely ridiculous next to her, since she'll be nearly 6 feet tall in heels. Maybe I could compromise and wear heels for the ceremony and switch into comfy flats.

Moneypenny424

If you're willing to buy the shoes for them, I think it is fine.  I'd be annoyed to have to buy dressy flats, which I'd never wear again.  I'm 5'11 and never get dressed up without heels, so just try to keep their comfort in mind too.

Just wear what is comfortable for you and don't worry about your BMs.

jagore08

I am about 5'3 and I wore 2" heels for my wedding.  All of my BM except one is much taller than I am and they all wore heels.  Look in my married bio.  The heights don't look odd, it looks natural.

ring_pop

There's no denying that you are short, and at the end of the day a couple of inches on them won't matter. You can ask, but don't make them wear specific shoes.

gottahavashorti

Telling them that you're wearing flats may influence their shoe decisions, but please don't make them wear specific shoes.  You can specify color if you want but they won't be seen under floor length dresses anyway. 

Except for one of my BMs who is the same height as me, everyone else standing at the altar was taller than me.  It looks fine in pictures, although my sister decided to get flats since the other BMs, who are shorter than her, had flat or low wedge sandals and she's self conscious about her height.

The same shoes don't fit everyone.  I like the look of flats but they never fit, so they'd be either too tight and painful or flopping off my feet while I walk.

Midgetth

Have them decided what they want to wear unless you are buying the shoes for them. If you're worried about them being taller than you I'm sorry. My sister is alot taller than me and she is my MOH either way if she wears heels or flats she's still gonna be taller. Heck my flower girl is taller than me and she's only 6. (I'm 5'0) And my FI is 6'8. Even with heels I'm still going to be the shortest person at my wedding & I honeslty love it. Embrace who you are. And yes I think casual flats or any flats would look silly with that dress. Thats a nice fancy dress not a summer dress you wear every day.

psichick

everyone standing with us is taller than i am, which isn't hard to do at 5'3". all the other girls are in heals, i'm wearing flats. my FI is 6'1". i don't really care that i'm going to look like a midget in the pictures, as that's what i usually look like anyway! as long as everyone is comfortable, that's all i care about.