First off, we got married in December when my husband was home on R&R from his tour in Iraq, we didn't have the time or money to have a real wedding ceremony so all we could do was pretty much just get the papers signed. We have planned our ceremony for next Spring, giving us time to save up money for the wedding we both want.
My husband has already decided on his groomsmen and I thought I had decided who I wanted to be my bridesmaids, but I just don't know anymore...I don't know if I can rely on any of them for this! It's not like I have hoards of girlfriends either. Two live out of state and we hardly ever talk anymore, one is 11 (a younger cousin) and lives over an hour and a half away, and the other (the one I had picked for MOH) is too wrapped up in drama to even think about it it seems like. I am getting no help from anyone but my husband and my mom. I've tried to ask the one I'd picked for MOH for help and ideas and such but she usually just changes the subject after a quick response or an "I don't know." I try not to bother my husband with too much of this because, well, he is in Iraq and has other things to focus on right now!
I'm having a hard time with the bridesmaid dresses as well. I figure that David's Bridal is the best bet for finding them since two girls live out of state and the prices are right. They have the exact style I was looking for but the color is nowhere near what I want. My husband and one groomsman will be wearing their dress blues (which are two different colors of dark blue, jacket one color and trousers another) so we decided that the bridesmaid dresses need to be a specific color. The other groomsmen will be wearing navy colored suits since black would just look funny with the dress blues. I really don't want a ton of different colors going on up there during the ceremony. I also know that there will be one person (the MOH) that will probably cause problems about the dress I've picked for them to wear. Everyone else wearing it will love it, just not her. I'm not sure what to do about that one...
Another issue is the guest list. We wanted a small, more intimate affair and boy, oh, boy...that is NOT going to happen! His family is small but mine is huge and we both have tons of friends...I know that it would just cause major problems if they weren't all invited! I've already come to realize that the place we picked for the wedding that I've had my heart set on for a while now, just won't work. It will as long as the weather stays nice but if we have to move inside, there is only room for about half our guests. But let's face it, I live in Washington and it rains all the time!
I guess my biggest problem is that I feel like we are having to settle for stuff we don't want or change things that we really do want to make this wedding better for everyone else...or maybe I'm just overly stressed with trying to plan this, deal with the deployment and all the other issues in everyday life!