Bridesmaid Necklace

arrippa

I would like my bridesmaids to wear a pearl necklace. I don't care what kind (single strand, multi strand, single pearl). Do I need to buy them? I am not sure what dress they are wearing since I told them they can wear any dress in black. Although I don't mind buying them a necklace, I would like to give them an opportunity to wear one that they own.

angiejoyjones

Bridesmaid gifts?

mcda04

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[QUOTE]<strong>I would like my bridesmaids to wear a pearl necklac</strong>e. I don't care what kind (single strand, multi strand, single pearl). Do I need to buy them? I am not sure what dress they are wearing since I told them they can wear any dress in black. Although I don't mind buying them a necklace,<strong> I would like to give them an opportunity to wear one that they own</strong>.
Posted by moemacWed30594[/QUOTE]

This is a little bit contradictory. Do they all have pearl necklaces already? If you have specific jewelry in mind then yes you have to buy it for them.

I don't mean to sound rude but why do they have to wear pearls? If they don't have any, they probably don't like them so if you buy them necklaces to wear for YOUR wedding, then they're not to be considered gifts.

mlg78

If you're going to be that picky you need to provide them to all your bridesmaids...  I own a boatload of jewelry but no pearls...not my style.

Mhanley4567

I don't get why a necklace to be worn for the wedding can't be part of the attendant gift as long as it's something they might wear another time. Since it should not be considered a gift, would it be okay to ask for it back after the wedding? People are too crazy about etiquette on TK, get with the times!

AJuliaNJ

Could they wear a fake pair of pearls? If so, I think this would be completely fine. I would then equate it with telling your bridesmaids that you'd like them to wear ANY silver shoes, which I believe would be fine etiquette-wise. If they don't have pearls or fake pearls, I'm sure Kohls or Target sells a fake pearl necklace for $10 or less. 

If they need to be real pearls, you need to purchase them, and not part of the bridesmaid gift. They might not even like pearls, and they are supposed to like their bridesmaid gift.

AJuliaNJ

Not sure why I said pair of pearls. I think I had shoes on the brain.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]I don't get why a necklace to be worn for the wedding can't be part of the attendant gift as long as it's something they might wear another time. Since it should not be considered a gift, would it be okay to ask for it back after the wedding? People are too crazy about etiquette on TK, get with the times!
Posted by Mhanley4567[/QUOTE]
If people were likely to wear a pearl necklace another time they'd already own one.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]Could they wear a fake pair of pearls? If so, I think this would be completely fine. I would then equate it with telling your bridesmaids that you'd like them to wear ANY silver shoes, which I believe would be fine etiquette-wise. If they don't have pearls or fake pearls, I'm sure Kohls or Target sells a fake pearl necklace for $10 or less.  If they need to be real pearls, you need to purchase them, and not part of the bridesmaid gift. They might not even like pearls, and they are supposed to like their bridesmaid gift.
Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]
If you said "any silver jewelry" it would be like saying "any silver shoes," but pearls are too specific and too dependent on personal taste to be the same.  It would be more like "any fluorescent green shoe," which should be paid for by the bride if required.

arrippa

Thanks for all the replies. I will shop with each one to find a pearl necklace in their style. Don't worry, this is NOT their gift. I have their gifts already picked out for them. My problem was I wasn't sure if if any pearl necklace was too specific.