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BM's dress doesn't fit... and she's LYING about it!

Color me confused.

So one of my bridesmaids, a good mutual friend of FI and I, who has a habit of perpetual lying, bought a dress that doesn't fit. She's a bigger girl, who's always struggled with weight fluctuations and I totally feel for her on that. When we looked at dresses in March she told me she wanted to lose weight for the wedding-- to which I responded, that's fine just get what fits you now and we'll take it in when you lose weight.

Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. Her dress comes in and she tells me "oh I tried it on, it looks awesome!" Great. A week goes by and I'm at her house and she says, "I don't want you to freak out, but my dress doesn't fit. I need to lose 30lbs in order to get it zipped." OOOOk, what size is it? "an 18" Didn't you try on a 20 when we ordered? "yes, but I wanted to lose weight" and you haven't? "well, no".

So my mom calls DB and they say they can swap out sizes no prob. Ok, sweet. Mom calls friend and in a non-threatening way tells friend they can swap and she'd be happy to go with her if she wants the company. Friend's response? "Oh it fits now, I don't need to go!"

UGH. Seriously? You couldn't have lost 30lbs in 2 days without giving birth. And I know she didn't do that. I freaked out at first but now I've decided theres no point in worrying and she'll have to take care of it herself. If it doesn't fit on THE day, she just won't be in the wedding and we'll have BM stand at FI's side and walk out with his daughter, the flower girl.

Am I being ridiculous? Do I need to get on her about the dress? Just not worry about it and go with plan B if needed? Thoughts?
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Re: BM's dress doesn't fit... and she's LYING about it!

  • Just let it go.  It sounds like she wouldn't respond well to you anyhow.  You have your back up plan if you need it.
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  • Don't let it bother you! If it dosen't fit, its her fault.
  • Wow, that sucks.  I don't know when your wedding is, but I think what I would do is wait a few weeks then call & ask her if it fits.  Like the pps said, good thing you have a plan b.
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  • Perhaps she has her own plan for the dress?  I know my friend was a BM in a wedding and  bought the dress that fit originally. 1 week before the wedding she tried her dress on and had a 4 inche gap at the top of the zipper!!  She took it to her aunt who put in a side panel.  You couldn't even tell and the bride was none the wiser.


  • When I start freaking out because someone in the bridal party hasn't bought their outfit yet, or whatever... all I keep telling myself is, "this is not the end of the world. If it doesn't fit, or if they don't buy the clothes, they simply won't be in the wedding." It's not my problem to worry about. Hope that helps you.
    Amanda and Eric Gettin' married 10/10/10
  • I agree with the others. I wouldn't worry. it's her problem if she doesn't have a dress, it's her problem if she makes a fool of herself!

    Don't stress it :)
  • As long as she paid for the dress, I wouldn't worry about it. If she's not in the wedding, oh well, at least that's not your money wasted. 
  • This sucks, but I agree with everyone else who is saying don't worry about it. You did what you could, and if she can't get in that dress then she isn't walking down the asile. Problem solved.
  • Thanks ladies. Thats what I was thinking-- it's her money, I have other things to concentrate on, like the fact that I'm marrying the love of my life in 6 weeks and this is going to be one of the happiest days of our lives :) 

    I had a coworker tell me they thought I should go make her put the dress on in front of me or drag her kicking and screaming to a seamstress. I have no patience for drama.
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  • I wouldn't get upset - I can guarantee she will find a way to fix the situation by the wedding. I can't imagine her choosing to walk down the aisle with her dress half zipped! haha
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